ASSESSMENT- Relationship with Spouse/Parental Partner

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How does your relationship with your parenting team partner (spouse, ex-spouse, partner) contribute to Kinship, Trust, and Love in your Family?

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Note: A "parental partner" is anyone who actively shares primary parenting responsibilities with you (includes unwed couples living together, divorced parents who with joint custody).

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2. When you or your spouse disciplines your children, the other person typically: *

Select the choice that best represents your situation.

Always disagrees with the decision and course of action.

Disagrees with the decision and course of action most of the time.

Sometimes disagrees with the decision and course of action.

Often agrees with the decision and course of action.

Always agrees with the decision and course of action.

3. In your relationship with your spouse, you both generally: *

Select the choice that best represents your situation.

Don't feel like you want the same things out of life, at all.

Disagree on many things when it comes to what you want out of life.

Take a neutral stance on what the other wants out of life.

Want most of the same things out of life.

Are completely aligned on what you want out of life.

4. When either one of you disagrees with how your spouse disciplines your children, you typically: *

Select the choice that best represents your situation.

Undermine it.

Tell them they'll need to deal with the problem by on their own.

Tell them the disciplinary course of action needs to change.

Tell them you disagree but you will support them.

Talk with them about how the consequence needs to change and participate together in follow-on discussions with your child.

5. Whenever you accomplish something you're proud of at home or work, your spouse generally: *

Select the choice that best represents your situation.

Always finds a reason to put you down, finds something wrong with it or finds ways to take credit for it.

Sometimes finds a reason to put you down, finds something wrong with it or finds ways to take credit for it.

Is completely neutral or doesn't acknowledge it.

Will give you credit and acknowledge it but doesn't always seem genuinely happy for you.

Celebrates your accomplishment with you.

6. Whenever your spouse accomplishes something they're proud of at home or work, you generally: *

Select the choice that best represents your situation.

Always find a reason to put them down, find something wrong with it or find ways to take credit for it

Sometimes find a reason to put them down, find something wrong with it or find ways to take credit for it.

Are completely neutral or doesn't acknowledge it.

Will give them credit and acknowledge it but you aren't always genuinely happy for them.

Celebrate their accomplishment with them.

7. When it comes to what you want out of life, you and your spouse: *

Select the choice that best represents your situation.

Argue constantly about what one, or both, of you are trying to accomplish.

Argue sometimes about what one, or both, of you are trying to accomplish.

Don't discuss what one, or both, of you are trying to accomplish.

Sometimes talk about what one, or both, of you are trying to accomplish.

Talk often about what one, or both, of you are trying to accomplish and try to help each other achieve it.

8. When you and your spouse have a disagreement about anything in general, you typically: *

Select the choice that best represents your situation.

Argue about it, the scope of the disagreement expands and the level of conflict escalates to an unacceptable level very quickly.

Argue about it and then don't talk to each other for days.

Argue about it and either one of you is just as likely to apologize once they recognize they are in the wrong.

Talk about it. One or both of you gets frustrated in the process but you generally come to a mutual understanding.

You each allow the other to take turns talking while listening to what they have to say until you come to a mutual understanding.

9. When one of you apologizes to the other, typically: *

Select the choice that best represents your situation.

The other person will not accept the apology and will keep finding ways to keep the argument going.

The other person will not accept the apology initially and refuses to talk about it.

The other person says they accept the apology but still refuses to talk about it.

The other person accepts the apology, states they're still angry and will need time to cool off.

The other person accepts the apology and chooses to forgive so you can move past the conflict.

10. How do you and your spouse spend your free time? *

Select the choice that best represents your situation.

Each of us usually does our own thing (either on our own or with someone else) and we are both OK with that.

One of us typically does their own thing (either on their own or with someone else), this frustrates the other and we argue about it.

It depends on the situation, sometimes we spend it together and other times we each do our own thing.

We often try to do things together but can't always do that because of the plans we make with other people. We would prefer to spend the time together. We don't argue about it when we can't.

We always try to do things together and make sure the other is included in making plans.

11. When one of your children does something wrong in your family, you and your spouse typically: *

Select the choice that best represents your situation.

Blame each other and fight about who is responsible for the child's behavior.

One of you tells the other that they need to deal with the problem and refuses to help.

Ignore the behavior, give the child something to distract them from continuing to do it, or bargain with the child by making promises to reward them if they stop.

Talk about how to respond and discipline the child and agree on a course of action for discipline before taking action.

You both respond independently of each other but you've worked out a system which allows you both to follow the same reasoning so you don't need to discuss it. The other parent is informed afterward to make sure they are aware of what happened and the disciplinary action taken.

12. Have you and your spouse/parental partner clearly identified and defined family values? *

Yes, our family values are clearly defined and they are a part of the daily conversation.

No, we've never clearly defined our values.

Sort of- We all generally understand what we value as a family.

13. Please choose the best description of the relationship you are assessing. *

We are married and live together.

We are not married and live together.

We are separated or divorced and do not live together but share primary parental responsibilities.

We are married but geographically separated (work, career, other) but we share primary parental responsibilities.

We are unmarried but geographically separated (work, career, other) and we share primary parental responsibilities.

Other:

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