TRANS BY @YELLOW_I_NG ON TWT

Last week, after meeting the perpetrator’s legal team there has been no statement from the company since. I have started to see several posts going against what I said instead.

Honestly, I don’t want to write another post refuting those posts, and I don’t think any of those posts held any credibility either. However, my silence only supports their posts so I am writing to explain myself rather than to expose anything else.

1.The claim that the perpetrator was a ‘Eunta’ (//*’Eunta’ is a word that means a person that was intentionally left out from/by one or more friend groups. A level below from getting direct bullying or physical harm, but a form of bullying that involves feeling left out and ignored from the majority.)

Just because the fact that SJ had been an eunta in her 2nd grade is becoming an issue, does not mean the fact that she bullied disappears.

The fact that the perpetrator was an eunta is not important to the victims and does not change the fact that they were bullied. I don’t understand why you are asking me to confirm whether the Eunta rumor is true or not, but recognize that even if the perpetrator was an eunta, this does not make the things the victims went through to be false.

If I were to speak what the victim(her sister) knows about this eunta rumor, it is that the perpetrator had been part of the bullying but had instead ended up falling out of that friend group.

2.Disguising a fight between two classmates as bullying?

(picture of comment) “the two of them could have just resolved the issue alone, I hate how the older sister is getting involved. Is it okay to butt in and shit about two classmate’s fight just because you are their older sister? I don’t care about that idol and I don’t care whether she quits idol life but that unnie person is weird as well. She’s not even someone who is involved but she just seems to have a serious need for attention.. getting the phone call from her sister when they were fighting and whatnot.. seems like she’s just a pervert with a sister complex.”

I have seen a lot of comments from news sites, natepann, blogs, and twitter saying that this issue spread from an emotional fight between the perpetrator and the victim.

On top of that, the perpetrator had said in her official statement that the two were fighting and I continued the call (from sister). Let me be clear on this. It was clearly not a fight.

I am speaking as someone who has watched from the moment she(her sister) received the call to the end and my sister has only said, “yes, no, sorry” throughout the whole conversation. When I got the call from her the only things I heard was one sided cursing from the perpetrators… and as I mentioned, it was not from one person but from (mentions some initials of the ppl) three ppl pouring out swear words (to the victim).

3.Juice issue

It’s questioning that the perpetrator remembers the call but does not remember the content and only the swearing. When I heard the swearing on the other end of the call and asked their reason for it, the perpetrator had said it was because (the victim) had borrowed money but did not pay back. The borrowed money is from the juice but the fact that (the perpetrator) only remembers swearing and not about the juice seems like both forgetfulness and selective memory is taking place. This is a typical and obvious best option for perpetrators.

4.Intersection between the perpetrator and the victim.

I have written a sincere comment below the post of the writer who is both a friend of the perpetrator and the victim. I do not want the writer to be negatively affected, and I did not want both my sister and the writer to be hurt so I had not written anything against to what they wrote. However, to clear the facts, I have brought the text(pictures) as shown below.

(picture) “SJ did not smoke(cigarette) at that time and she is not the kind of person to bully […] she is just a person who gets shy a lot.”

Not only this text but a lot of what she wrote supports the perpetrator with words like “she doesn’t have that kind of personality,” “She is not that kind of person.” This is not support from an objective viewpoint about the case. It is a subjective viewpoint about how she felt about the person(perpetrator).

There has been a flow of testimonies from victims who were in that place, and the only support that the perpetrator has is very subjective such as, “she is not that kind of person.”

This pattern comes out very often in many criminals as well. People who choose to inflict violence is not decided beforehand. The moment anybody who fails to treat people as an equal with respect is when that person becomes a perpetrator.

Most importantly, the writer has said that they were friends with the perpetrator during 2nd and 3rd grade. This means she cannot directly show support  for the perpetrator for what happened in 1st grade.

(picture shortened trans.) “when SJ fell out from that friend group and became friends with me, her previous friend saw me with her and said to me, “why are you going around with her? Don’t play with her.” She was telling me not to be with her just because SJ fell out from that friend group.”

The words, “why are you going around with her? Don’t play with her” were the words that the perpetrator had said (about her sister) to a friend she saw saying hello to my sister. This situation is her receiving the same treatment she had done (to the sister).

This friend(the writer of the post) seems to pity the perpetrator, but the perpetrator is a person who had said even worse words to the victims.

I have not mentioned the actress in anything I had wrote before. If I were to write my opinion.. this actress had been involved in an idol’s bullying rumor and had her comments terrorized by her(perpetrator) sasaeng fans. News articles were pouring out but she did not release any statement but updated her sns that targeted (the perpetrator).

If this were not true, then she would have released a statement (//that she was uninvolved) about it in the first place but she had chosen to close her comment section and face pressure from hate and the public as she kept silent about it. read the meaning of her silence.

I will wrap up with someone’s comment below.

(picture) “this person did not even know the full situation well in the first place and posted saying that they were friends with both SJ and the victim but she didn’t know about the bullying. What the victim unnie had said was true was that this person and SJ might have been close and that SJ might have been a good person to that person. But using her words like this and saying that there might not have been any bullying in the first place.. honestly saying that SJ is not the type of person to bully someone itself means that the person did not even know SJ very well.”

5.The posts against my posts that seems to be from the same writer

There has consistently been on person who keeps posting to not believe what me..

The person who had appeared in my second post reporting about the bullying through DM has been proved to have been a colleague of my sister which is why I posted it. I would not have done something as foolish to have posted something without proof.

They were afraid to be exposed in any way and I did not know how helpful a picture of a yearbook would be.. but since there has been some issue with that DM, I have requested proof. Once I get a reply back, I will post that immediately (// I think this is already posted too)

(picture) A bunch of pictures of posts that’s about why you shouldn’t trust the victim unnie’s posts

A lot of people have been saying that there has been a distortion in memory and that I keep changing my words. I have tried to be as descriptive and specific as I could.

Additionally, my sister is not the one who is writing this and many people have been worrying that there might have been some exaggerations in what I write. But even at this moment and every time I am writing about this, my sister is sitting on my bed in my room so I can repeatedly confirm if it is true or not. I have taken out any memories that she was not sure of which is why there is only a minimum of things I have actually exposed.

There were a lot of people who are saying that the victim’s words do not match up, and to confirm about that. However, please recognize that the perpetrator is the one who remembers what she wants to remember and has changed (her words).

They said “groundless” and that they will sue → said she has smoked cigarettes before → said she has only cursed on the phone but does not remember about the juice.

There is no end if I go against everything else but I will stop here for those who were waiting.

Right now, nobody in our family can easily talk about this and are going through a hard time until there is an end to this situation.

The hate messages are endless and it is tiring. But I want to say my thanks to those who have surprisingly expressed encouragement.

All the people who have come and said they were neverlands and has apologized and encouraged… there has been a lot of people who have apologized in their artist’s place with so much sincerity that made me tear up. They have expressed that they are having a hard time but have also sent words of encouragement and worry and I felt thankful but at the same time, my heart is heavy because there seems to be so many people who got hurt through this situation.

I want to be free from this as quick as I can so there are times I want to give up but I think about the times I could not protect my sister during her school days and so I am bearing on to protect her from the perpetrator at least now.

Thank you for reading this long post.