Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
C.III Conflict Mediation Policy
Conflict is present in all communities. It is not the presence or absence of conflict that demonstrates the health of the community, but the way that conflict is managed. In healthy communities, conflict leads to new ideas, creative solutions, and increased vitality. As Unitarian-Universalists, we embrace and celebrate cultural diversity and diversity of ideas and opinions. We therefore have a special obligation to address and engage in conflict in ways that allow for the deep truths of our individual experience, hold us accountable for our words and actions, demonstrate respect for one another, and ultimately strengthen our community and our relationships with each other.
As a Fellowship, we explicitly value both the individual and the community, knowing that individuals thrive in healthy, supportive communities and that healthy communities are supported by the loving and just behavior of individuals. Since no one person has hold of the whole Truth, we aspire to address conflict directly by listening openly to the ideas and experiences of others, attending to the meaning and feelings within others' words so we can better understand their message. Since no one person has hold of the whole Truth, we aspire to speak honestly and clearly, from our own experiences, and with kindness and respect. And since not all conflicts can or should be resolved, we seek not only solutions but a process of respect, reconciliation, and understanding, especially in those cases in which we cannot come to agreement.
CM2 Conflict Mediation Policy
Most conflict in our congregation can and should be addressed by direct conversation between the parties involved. However, differences or misunderstandings that go unresolved and descend into prolonged conflict can threaten the social fabric of our church. The guidelines developed by the Healthy Congregation Committee and taught throughout the Fellowship can be used to help make conflictual conversations thoughtful, caring, and productive. When more assistance is needed, the HCC is available to support conflict mediation throughout the Fellowship as described below.
CM3 CONFLICT MEDIATION Procedures
Conflict Mediation Policy was approved by the Board of Trustees on 1/19/2010