77.64 Secret

1395. https://postsecret.com/

What a great site.  People post their secrets on images or a sent in physical postcard.  No names.

1396. I have to come to grips with the fact that time is running short.  Each day I delay putting my full diabetes fighting system and Walkabout Solopreneur in place, the further away I am from making a trip to China or the Ukraine.  I have to go all in on activities that matter, and put aside those that don’t help.  “But if not.”  This is an old phrase that means, “over my dead body”.  I need to express total commitment to creating unique content, making money as an affiliate, and eating a kick ass vegan diet of soup, salad, vegetables, and fruit to knock out diabetes.  I can save the starches for later.

1397. I need to start posting these short blurbs on relevant blogs on the 1-click video posts.  That will make them totally unique and rank higher.

1398. Join all groups and forums related to my IBM* issues, and share the good ones with my community.  Create a kick ass spun profile description to post wherever possible online.

1399. When deciding what to do in WS, don’t let money be the top factor.  You can reach a full time income as a side hustle by promoting only products and services you believe in or use.  For example, you can make money promoting stock picking or FOREX, and I have studied the latter, but people with supercomputers near Wall Street will beat you every time.  You can make money, and you can lose your ass.

1400. Be sure to put a link to one of my websites in each FB post.

1401. STM:

There are some important things you need to realize about super affiliates:

They once knew nothing about affiliate marketing.

They had to start by setting up their first affiliate campaign.

They had to learn to analyze data and make adjustments until they saw profits.

They had to go through their first $1/day, then $10/day, $100/day, $1000/day...etc.

They were once where YOU are - whether you are inexperienced, have some experience, or already a seasoned affiliate.

1402. This Is the End of the Cycle

Prices are reaching unaffordable levels across the board: homes and rents in big cities are unaffordable, fine dining is unaffordable, property taxes are unaffordable, construction is unaffordable, autos and trucks are mostly unaffordable, fast food is increasingly unaffordable, college tuition is beyond-unaffordable, healthcare and healthcare insurance are insanely unaffordable– the list includes the vast majority of the costs of living. (Cheap TVs are getting a bit cheaper. Yea for low inflation!)

Now is the time to evaluate what you really want and need to live a good life, and it is not likely to be more stuff.

1403. It’s becoming obvious that diabetes is kicking my ass.  I will eat up the foods I have now, and then on next Monday or so, I will fast for 3 to 7 days.  This has to stop.

1404. 14 Foods That Naturally Remove Toxins From Your Body

14 foods that naturally Remove toxins from body

  1. Cucumber: on average around 95% water, this veggie helps flush out toxins and alkalize the body while delivering a powerful nutrient punch.
  2. Garlic: stimulates the liver to encourage production of detoxification enzymes.
  3. Broccoli: delivers a large dose of vitamins while neutralizing and eliminating toxins.
  4. Lentils: extremely fiber-rich (1 cup cooked has 62.5% of your RDA!), lentils aids in toxin elimination, lower cholesterol, and balance blood sugar.
  5. Turnip greens: loaded with antioxidants and sulfur-containing nutrients (Without sulfur, the body cannot properly detoxify substances such as pharmaceuticals, environmental toxins and heavy metals), turnip greens also contain phytonutrients called glucosinolates that help activate and regulate detoxification enzymes.
  6. Sunflower seeds: these little slivers of sunshine are not only high selenium and Vitamin E, but also assist liver’s detoxing capabilities and prevent cholesterol build up in the blood and arteries. Be sure to choose  organic as their high fat and oil allows them to easily soak up chemicals used in the production process.
  7. Walnuts: infuse the body with healthy omega-3 oils to assist detoxification.
  8. Turmeric: stimulates liver function. (Also a great addition to your diet for all-around health).
  9. Red pepper: when it comes to cleansing, vitamin C is one of the cream of the vitamin crop because it transforms toxins into digestible material. One red pepper contains about 3 times more vitamin C than an orange.
  10. Citrus fruits.
  11. Grapefruit: a class of its own, grapefruit lowers cholesterol, prevents kidney stones and aids the digestive system, which set it apart from the other citrus fruits.
  12. Watercress: keeps free radicals away from cells, energizes cleaning enzymes in the liver and is a natural diuretic.
  13. Mung beans: used by Ayurvedic doctors for thousands of years, this easily digestible bean absorbs toxic residue from the intestinal walls.
  14. Artichokes: chock-full of cynarin, which increases bile production and promotes healthy digestion.

I eat most of these on a regular basis.

1405. The main take away from the Pat Flynn webinar is to create pages for affiliate products and link your articles to them and not to the product directly.  I want to also super optimize these pages using Yoast.

1406. Circle of Virtue

Virtue is an old fashioned word.  Reminds me of the Stoics.

1407. My mind is slipping.  Not in a big way, but in small bits and pieces.  I have been avoiding chklines to cover my daily rituals, but I don’t think that’s possible now.  I want to maximize my health and wealth for the last years of my life.  Having set rituals will make things easier.

1408. IBMs Reboot - We’re Not Done Yet

As IBMs (Introvert Boomer Males), we have lived through enough shit to now sit back, examine our lives, make changes, and live the lives we were meant to live.

Men.

Just how many IBMs are there?  I can only guestimate.  There are approximately 76 million baby boomers, with maybe 38 million being male.  Actually, there are probably more females, so let’s adjust that number down to 36 million.

Introverts and extroverts split that number evenly.  Some people include ambiverts - I do not.  You know which way you lean.  So I’m estimating 18 million IBMs.  I could be off, but so what.  The numbers are strong.

Here are some rough observations of what we have done, and what we can do.  

1409. Rededication

Rebuilding your life is never a straight line in a positive direction.  I am 2 weeks in, and much has been accomplished.  I believe the next step is to start using that personal checklist to ritualize many positive daily activities.

The biggest change yet to be ritualized is walking and weight lifting.

1410.


The Power of Less

The power of less appeals to one’s Buddha nature.  Everything I own can fit in a backpack.  Everything beyond that has been donated to the Salvation Army.  I don’t want to own anything extra that I have to take care of like homes, pools, lawns, and cars.

6 Principles:

  1. set limitations
  2. choose the essential
  3. simplify
  4. focus
  5. create habits
  6. start small

Less is powerful.  Do the important things.

Benefits:

My most important part of my 100 Day Gong may well turn out to be not watching TV.  I’m already getting much more work done and more deep sleep.  I no longer nap in front of the television.

As far as my blogs go, I must become the content king.  I not only have to produce good text but video and image memes as well.

Ed Dale is coming up with a new challenge beginning tomorrow evening.  I will jump in and see what he has to offer.  I hope it’s built around Facebook groups and not list building.  At any rate, I need to get back to the basics.

As I get older, focus is harder to come by.  My wants are small, like the old Earl Butz joke, “tight pussy, loose shoes, and a warm place to shit”.  Still applies in many 3rd world countries, but it got Butz fired.  And rightfully so.

All I can manage is single tasking.  I have to focus on what I need to do next.  Multitasking is less efficient, more complicated, creates more mistakes, and induces stress.

I only multitask when walking to the gym or taking my niece’s bloodhound to the dog park.  On the way, it’s a good time to practice ho-oponopono.  Clean your mind.

I’m still working to develop habits that will make my life easier.  I have to reduce clutter on my desk and computer.  Say no to any new commitments.  Go through the entire house and destroy papers that are not needed.

1411. Mindfulness

I am still not done reducing distractions in my life.  My 100 Day Gong depends on eating only healthy foods and not watching television.  Football season will be the ultimate test, but so much time is wasted watching games between teams you don’t care about.

I do need to consider writing more snot pages and 10 actions lists.  Focus.

My divorce is in the bag, and I now get along better with the ex than I ever have.  It may be time to head for China or the Ukraine to find my next ex-wife.  I can now officially call myself a 3 time loser.  Or is that winner?  Or free?

Mindfulness is all about paying attention in the present moment, without judgement, to things as they actually are.

So many people I know rail on about the way things ought to be.  They have more “shoulds” in their vocabulary that no one could make them all happen.  The only person I control is me, and I don’t control me all that well.

I prefer to see the world as it is, not what I expect it or want it to be.

Some choices:

  1. automatic pilot vs conscious choice
  2. analyzing vs sensing
  3. striving vs accepting
  4. thoughts vs mental events
  5. avoidance vs approaching
  6. mental time travel vs being in the present
  7. depleting vs nourishing activities

I am most guilty of letting my mind dredge up stupid shit I did in the past, and then beat myself up over my mistakes.

Could anything be more crazy?

I can’t change the past.  I don’t even know if I remember the events as they actually happened.  It doesn’t make me happier.  Save it for walking meditations where I can cleanse my mind.

Where do I want to be?

And how do I get there?

1412. As you can tell, I write from an Introvert Boomer Male perspective because I am one.

A lot of my relatives and friends like to get up in other people’s business.  I do not.  I don’t have the time to do what I need to do to improve my own life, but less worry about yours.

And truthfully, I don’t care about your life beyond how it affects mine.

If you have reached IBM age (53 to 71), you have already lived through a lifetime of shit.  We made it through Vietnam, the breakup of the Soviet Union, the assassination of John F. Kennedy, and a pretty complete destruction of the dollar.

Macro events are bad enough, but social changes are just plain confusing.  More racial and gender equality seem to have created angrier people, not more equal.

What it comes down to is an abdication of personal responsibility in favor of safety and government takeover of our everyday lives.  We fight over vaccinations for school children yet have a curriculum that does not prepare them for their reality.

When I was in college in the early 70s, summer jobs paid.  Many, like construction or in the shipyard, paid regular wages.  Men moved to Newport News from the coal mines in West Virginia and supported their families on the same wages we made for 3 months.

I calculate you would have to make $20 - $25 an hour to equal the buying power of our summer jobs.  That’s why I’m sure my daughter’s college had most students going to class year round and taking fewer classes per semester.

Shit happens.  I’ve had some great jobs and careers I’ve blown up with my own ADD.  I’ve had some shit jobs that were not so bad.  Do you work, go home, and bother the wife.

Chances are if you are an IBM, you have been through betrayal, divorce, multiple jobs, firing, significant health issues, and maybe even bankruptcy.

I don’t know any boomers who have been spared these pains.  They might exist, but I haven’t met one unscathed.

Yet we are still here, and we’re not done yet.

All the crap we have to swallow has been part of the learning process.  We can learn from our mistakes, or we can eat more and die.  The choice is ours.

It comes down to health, wealth, and relationships, and how we choose to live the last chapters of our lives.  We have reams of guidance from the past, from the Stoics, the Buddhists, and even the Samurai.  Or even my favorite “mentor”, the late Harry Browne.

Of the big 3 areas of life, relationships with women are the most difficult.  It’s all summed up in a classic joke:

Life that should have been so easy is infinitely complicated.

We have spent most of our lives working at jobs we may or may not have liked to buy stuff for other people.  And many times, it’s stuff like houses, cars, and pools that we have to take care of.  Double negative.  Double waste of life.

Men and women are just plain different, no matter how many politicians or social influencers attempt to destroy the differences.

I lived in Asia for 10 years.  For 5,000 years, smart people have recognized yin and yang and basic forces of nature working together.

Living in Asia as a young man was a double-edged sword.  You were always an outsider, but you could pick and choose where to engage.  

Sex was easy to come by without all of the bullshit rules women make up to complicate your lives.  What I found most appealing was the lack of shows of affection in public.  I don’t need air kisses or real ones for others to judge.

While people would treat you better or worse because you were a stranger, it was exciting to wake every day and not quite know what was going to happen.

When it came to women, in the pre-Internet era, the only way they learned about Western men was via movies.  If they wanted to try one out, you were the only choice.  If you spoke the local language, so much the better.

Near my favorite hotel in Tokyo was an area where Japanese girls would visit if they were interested in black men.  You would see Americans, Hawaiians, Samoans, and maybe a few Jamaicans.

Strictly a hook up spot.  If the women got what they wanted, they would be back.  If not, they would move on.  But they would not beat themselves up as violating some moral code imposed by others.

The downside of easy sex was coming home.  God I miss it.

My problems with relationships was going for quantity over quality.  Three divorces prove it.  I kept repeating the same mistakes.

Trusting your own gut, and forging your own path is the most difficult life lesson of them all.

We spend our lives reacting to problems, not heading them off.  We solve problems as they come up.  Something breaks, we head to Home Depot.  Fix it immediately.  Even worse with the women in our lives.

We are expected to fix something we don’t understand.  We don’t have the facts.  We don’t know what they have been hiding from us.  Our repairs are surface issues that never address a deep problem we will never understand.

For whatever reason, our feminist culture has decided that their way is better.  We’re supposed to listen to their problems and not offer solutions.  We’re not their girlfriends.

I know in my last marriage, I used to hear complaints from my wife and daughter about different things.  If I went ahead and took action without seeking their pre-approval, I often caught shit for it anyway.  Many women are more interested in complaining than in solutions.

Over the course of this 131 day reboot, I will recommend that IBMs seek their female partners or spouses abroad.  Sorry ladies, if I can call you that without being vilified as a sexist pig.

It gets worse.  I recommend “mail order brides” for boomer men because they are younger, smarter, sexier, taller, prettier, and better educated than we can attract at home.

Boomer women who still have game are likely cougars.  I don’t blame them, but it’s amazing to me that women will brand a boomer male as crazy for looking to Russia, Brazil, or Thailand for a wife while they get used by young men.

It’s okay for her to go young, not him.

That said, I recommend not going younger than you can handle.  And I don’t mean sex drive only.  I wouldn’t trust a Ukrainian woman under 30 as far as I can spit.  But the same woman in the Philippines could be the love of your life you have been unconsciously longing for.  She might even be 18, or 25.

You have to turn the tables on women and learn from the PUA masters to find what you need.

For example, women in Vietnam master their household and don’t want you mucking around in the kitchen or interfering in her domain.  Her friends and family would be appalled if they caught you changing a diaper.

The world is a big place.  If the girl next door does not work for you anymore, you can go anywhere to find the perfect match - on your terms, no compromise.

Why would you consider spending thousands of dollars to travel abroad and then settle?