Guide to Surviving Homelessness
By: Jack Knoxville (2020)
If you’re reading this, I’m going to assume it’s because you’ve found yourself with nowhere to go and need some help.
First, let me tell you: your present is not your future, and right now, you have to focus on surviving. I’ve been there, and I’m smart enough to know that any day I could be there again. No matter what’s going on, please understand that this does not have to be your destiny, and YOU CAN DO THIS!
So, let’s start with getting you somewhere safe.
Whatever has landed you here is not nearly as important as how we’re going to get you out of here. So this is what we need to do.
Here are some vital questions to ask yourself:
What resources do you currently have access to?
When I was 16 years old, I came home from school to an empty house; as in, no furniture, no electricity, no note, just an empty house. I crashed with friends while I could but ultimately moved into a treehouse in the woods near my neighborhood. When my racist white principal found out, she smiled like the Cheshire cat and told me she was kicking me out of school because it was supposedly illegal for me to attend school if I wasn’t living at home with my parents.
I had a friend whose parents were willing to take me in, but the principal went behind my back and convinced them that I was “violent, dangerous, and a liar” and had lied about why I wasn’t living with my family.
Yet, she trapped me in the hallway (the last day that I saw my friend or her family) and told me they were kicking me out because they felt that they couldn’t trust me and that I had been lying to them about my family. (I didn’t find out her involvement in why they kicked me out until I was in my 30’s!)
Because of this woman, I ended up homeless in a town where it was illegal to be homeless. (Myrtle Beach, SC has stringent vagrancy laws, and they will throw you in jail and trash your stuff in an instant.) So, I ended up finding an all-night coffee shop where I would sit and drink coffee with my headphones on, and write until the sun came up. As soon as the sun started to rise, I’d hit the beach with my backpack as my pillow and my flannel shirt to block the light, because they couldn’t kick me off of the beach for sleeping.
Unfortunately, in extreme situations, you may have to change your sleep schedule. I’ve done that too and had to run on a handful of 15-20 minute naps across a week; it’s hell, and I do NOT recommend it. Sleep and rest are essential; get them as often as you safely can.
I’m going to be honest with you, the road ahead is not going to be easy, but you CAN do this. I believe in you. Remember that right now, you may have to be a little flexible in what your expectations are, but you should never compromise your body or your mind for anyone else. You are a human being who matters. Please focus on getting safe and getting help. Remember, whatever you are dealing with right now truly is temporary.
One of the best ways to claim some power in this situation, even though it may not feel like you have any, is to find ways to make money. (Notice, I didn’t just say “get a job”) Jobs can be difficult to come by, especially in this post-COVID world. They can come with their own set of problems and expenses that you may not have access to right now. If you CAN get a job, go for it. But, don’t let that become an obstacle or an excuse for yourself to fail. We don’t have that kind of time. Even if you’re crashing with friends or relatives, people will, reasonably, get burnt out having to carry the extra weight of an additional human in their home; it happens. So, let’s be proactive.
Make a plan to get your ID if you don’t have one already. You will likely need a legal and certified copy of your birth certificate (a photocopy will not work). You’ll also need your social security card. If you don’t have either of these two things, start there. Find the vital records department in whichever city or town you were born in and find out what they need to send your birth certificate. There will be a charge and a waiting period. Find someone you know that is reliable and stable, who would be willing to collect your mail for you until you get back on your feet. SAVE THE ENVELOPES (at least two are usually required to do things like getting a library card, getting a photo ID, and sometimes even getting a bank account). Once your paperwork arrives, take it to the DMV and, at the very least, get a state-issued photo-id ASAP!
If you need to make money today, you won’t have time to wait for all of those steps I just mentioned, so you will need to be creative. Do you have a skill or service you can offer? For instance, if you’re an artist, you may find luck selling artwork online. Take it a step further and use a site like Redbubble or Cafepress, where you can build your own virtual store for little to no upfront cost. Wash cars, babysit, house-sit, cut grass, collect cans, do some busking. I get that whatever you have to do for work likely won’t be your dream job, but you have to push past your pride so that you can eat.
If you need help finding resources, reach out to my team at Trans Empowerment Project http://www.transempowerment.org, and we’ll do our best to help you find food, clothing, and safe shelter (or transportation to a safe shelter).
Wherever you land, use that time to charge your batteries, literally and figuratively, you have a whole future left to create.