Secure

Primary giver was able to fulfil your childhood emotional needs and  was available when needed.

Forms healthy relationships as an adult. Caring, supportive, affectionate, committed, willing to work through issues, expresses and understands the need of the relationship, makes partner feel secure and accepted

Anxious

Primary caregiver was inconsistent in meeting your childhood emotional needs.

As an adult you are often fearful of being abandoned or rejected and also of getting involved in a conflict, often question your partner’s commitment to the relationship, you constantly seek their approval and are more distrustful of your partner.

Avoidant

Primary caregiver was distant or unavailable to meet your childhood emotional needs

As an adult you find it difficult to express or show intimacy, may appear emotionally detached to others,you do not want to be controlled by your partner, you try to push others away when they try to get too close, you have a difficult time expressing your own needs and wants in a relationship

Anxious-Avoidant

Primary caregiver may have been abusive, neglectful and very inconsistent with meeting your childhood emotional needs

As an adult you are both fearful and anxious of committing to  a relationship but also at times desire intimacy, leading to conflicting and inconsistent behaviour fluctuation between ‘anxious’ and ‘avoidant’ attachment style

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