Tim's Date-Me Doc

Last updated: 2023-12-27

TLDR: 31-year-old monogamous straight man. SF Bay Area; not looking for a long-distance relationship. Software engineer. No kids, but I'll probably want kids someday. 6'1" tall. Atheist. Politically liberal (but with a lot of nuance). Drink socially, no tobacco or drugs.

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About me

I'm a thinker and a tinkerer: As a kid, I was addicted to LEGOs, but my meager allowance couldn't support my LEGO habit, so in my teens I switched to coding. In undergrad, I detoured into physics at Caltech; although I was an 'A' student, I decided research wasn't my passion, so I didn't pursue a PhD. I'm now an engineer at AI research lab Anthropic. (And I love my job!) I also dabble in electronics and 3D printing, leaving behind a trail of half-finished projects, as well as some finished ones.

I love spending time with my friends, even if it's just casually chatting over dinner or hanging out on a friend's couch. I'm semi-introverted -- I get along fine with new people, but my "social battery" gets depleted after a few hours.

A sample of things I enjoy: Bret Devereaux's history blog, Matt Levine on finance, Chemical Safety Board investigations, r/PixelArt, r/WholesomeMemes, r/Frogs (they're cute! 🐸). I'm more the "academic" kind of nerd than the "Star Trek and D&D" kind of nerd, but I get along well with the latter kind. I play video games occasionally, and when I'm having a bad day, my guilty pleasure is to binge-read terrible manga.

I enjoy being out in nature, and I ride my bike along the Bay Trail on weekends. I like road trips, and my friends and I usually go on a road trip every winter. I kinda want to travel abroad more, but I'm not a fan of long plane flights.

Although I'm financially stable, my ethos tends towards minimalism. I prefer not to own unnecessary things. I like mending worn clothes and fixing broken things. My apartment is tiny, clean, and cozy. I currently live alone, but I've had roommates in the past and really enjoyed it. Living with people is a great way to form a healthy and supportive community!

What I'm looking for

• Relationships should be comfortable and fun! I want a relationship where I can be myself and my partner can be herself. Good communication and mutual emotional support are important.
• I love to cuddle. Physical touch is my love language.
• In-depth conversations are my other love language. What exactly is a leap-second? Is a certain fractal space-filling? Why weren't language barriers a problem for Vasco de Gama's voyage to India? What will happen when AI can generate infinite seasons of your favorite TV show? (It's fine if your interests are different from mine; I want to hear about your interests too!)
• I prefer to build an emotional connection before having sex.
• I'm looking for a medium-or-long-term relationship. I think I'll eventually want to get married and have kids, but I'm not in any hurry.
• I'm looking for a partner who lives in the San Francisco Bay Area; I'm not interested in a long-distance relationship.
• Also, I hope you like pictures of cute animals, because if we're in a relationship I'll text you pictures of cute animals randomly throughout the week. 🐱

Contact info

Think we might be a good match? Send me an email with your own dating doc, or a photo + short bio. Mention this doc so I know you're not a spammer. I look forward to hearing from you!

My email: timmaxw @ (the super-popular email provider that starts with "g")

For a first date, I like a casual weekend coffee somewhere near SF, but I can be flexible.

I know it can be really intimidating to reach out and contact a potential partner! I want you to know that you aren't bothering me, whether or not it turns out to be a good match. 🙂