10​ ​Tips​ ​For​ Talking​ ​To​ Your​ ​Teachers 


1. Make​ ​an​ ​appointment.​ Teachers are very busy so schedule a time to talk rather than trying to discuss something in the middle of class or right after class. Ask your teacher “when would be a good time to talk about___(fill in the blank)___?” Once you have an appointment set up, make sure to show up!!

2. Talk​ ​to​ ​your​ ​teacher​ ​with​ ​a​ ​fellow​ ​classmate​ ​or​ ​ask​ ​your​ ​counselor​ ​to​ ​help.​ If you know other students who are having the same issue(s) as you then go to the teacher together. If you want help talking with your teacher or initiating a conversation, you can always ask your counselor to help!

3. Plan​ ​ahead.​ Write down what you want to say beforehand. Write down any questions you have and if it is regarding a particular assignment or test, make sure you have the necessary paperwork.

4. Use​ ​your​ ​words.​ Don’t say negative words like “boring” or “I don’t like writing.” Ask questions that are not insulting, such as “Can you suggest a good way to get started?” Let your teacher know that you want to do well and how important it is for you to be able to succeed. When you ask questions about an assignment instead of saying “I don’t get it,” be specific and explain what part of the assignment you don’t understand.

5. Be​ ​a​ ​problem​ ​solver.​ Don’t expect your teacher to solve an issue for you. Propose a solution to your teacher.

6. Be​ ​empathetic​. Try to look at the situation from your teacher’s point of view. Be respectful. Teachers have feelings too. Don’t ever go to a teacher with an angry tone. It will not solve anything.

7. Listen!​ It is important to listen respectfully to your teacher. The teacher may tell you something you don’t know, which could be of great help.

8. If​ ​you​ ​think​ ​it​ ​is​ ​“uncool”​ ​to​ ​talk​ ​to​ ​your​ ​teachers,​ ​then​ ​revisit​ ​your​ ​values.​ How important is it to you to succeed? Communication with your teacher, the person you see everyday, is key to your success. Take advantage!

9. Don’t​ ​make​ ​assumptions.​ You don’t know what your teacher is thinking. Don’t assume they don’t like you. Talk to them! You may be surprised what comes out of the conversation. The reality is your teacher may not like you. Remember, if you have the right not to like them, then they have the right not to like you. We are all human. You can’t control the actions of others, but you can choose how you react to them. Disliking someone doesn’t mean it’s okay to be disrespectful!

10. Learn​ ​from​ ​the​ ​experience.​ Even if the conversation with your teacher doesn’t go the way you hoped, at least you have a clearer picture of your teacher’s expectations. Now, you know what to do in the future. Hopefully your teacher learned from the experience as well.

Don’t​ ​forget​ ​to​ ​SAY​ ​”THANK​ ​YOU”!