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Shabbat Toldot haShalom from Beth Aharon @ the Riverdale Bayit: November 30, 2019 | ב’ כסלו תש"ף - Issue #5780:9

Zəmanim & Services

Shabbat Parashat Tolədot - תּֽוֹלְדֹ֥ת

 30 November 2019 * 2 Kislew 5780

Candle Lighting - 4:11pm

Minḥa/Kabbalat-Shabbat/Arvit - 4:21pm

Shaḥarit - 8:30am * Latest Shəma - 9:21am

Zohar - 3:45pm * Minḥa - 3:50pm

Sə’uda Shəlishit / Shiur - 4:20pm

Shəki’a - 4:29pm * Arvit - 5:09pm

Tset Hakokhavim / Havdala - 5:14pm


Regular Week Prayers (Tefilat Avraham)

Shaḥarit: Sun: 8:30am *  Mon/Thu: 6:40, 8:00am * Tue/Wed/Fri: 6:45, 8:00am

Minḥa/Arvit: Sun-Thu: 4:10pm

Picture of the Week


*** Online dating in the 1920s... or maybe just twinning ***

Thank you all BAnners & Friends for joining us last shabbat in celebrating Beth Aharon 21st Anniversary.

Take part in Birkat Hashana 21 - a blessing for your family when we open the ark through our 22nd year - Details on the back!

"וְהִתְנַחַלְתֶּם אֹתָם... לָרֶשֶׁת אֲחֻזָּה לְעֹלָם"

This Shabbat & Beyond

~ Shabbat “From Turkey to Ethiopia”

Join us this shabbat as we celebrate and learn the culture of the Ethipian Jewish community.


Hodesh Kislew Tov to all the twins! Təfilat ‘Erev Shabbat @ 2BM @ 4:21pm

Shaḥarit: 8:30am ● First Kaddish: 8:55am

Shəma‘ Yisrael: 9:15am - all kids participate! ● Youth Groups: See the Bayit Bulletin for all programs ● Teen Tefila - it can happen only with you, teens!

Parasha: 9:45am ● Yimlokh: 10:40am - All kids are welcome to join!

Dvar Torah: 10:45am by Akiva Small on Esaw & Ya’akov

A Quiz From Turkey to Ethiopia - After Tefila 11:25am. A quiz in celebration of Thanksgiving and Sigd.

Kiddush: 11:45am - Kiddush with a special mark of the Ethiopian Jewish community is sponsored by Members & Friends of Beth Aharon in celebration of our many traditions.


Learning Service: 9:45am-11:00am with Livya Tinestit at the 2FL.

After Minḥa Mila baParasha: Understanding a word in our parasha. This week “‘Adashim - עֲדָשִׁים”: What’s the meaning of the word; why did Ya’akov cook it and not another food; and why is it gassy? Basic (and love of) Hebrew is sufficient. At 2BM.

After Minḥa The Listening Room with Myra Estelle at the LBM.

After Minḥa Daf baTalmud: Daf yomi with the Dafers @ the 3FL.

After Minḥa Shiur baayim: Shiur in the main sanctuary: Dr. Rivka Weill "Is Judicial Impeachment of the Israeli Prime Minister Constitutional?"


Rəfuaa Shəlema to ‘Am Yisrael wounded bodies & souls and the sick: Reuven ben Aliza, Menachem ben Yehudit, Yig’al ben Sulika, Ruben ben Avraham López & Ela, Amir ben Malka, Daniela Ester bat Mona, Yonit bat Yehudit, Ilana bat Victoria, and Michal Haya bat Tamar.

Thanks YOU all BANners & Friends for joining us at the BA 20th Anniversary Dinner; Great many thanks to all those who supported and volunteered. Special thanks to Rav Dov Lerea, Rav Avi Weiss, and Rav Aharon Exler, on words of wisdom; to the Beth Aharon Board on planning and execution: Ami Aharon, Akiva Small, Shoshana Smauels, Miryam Elefant, Tali Michaeli, and Roberta LaMot; to Yael Oshinsky, Richard Langer, and to the Bayit: Bryan, Geo, and Eric for amazing great help!

Many Thanks to the Sigal-Molina family for sponsoring kiddush last shabbat.

 ● Blessings to Americans on celebrating Thanksgiving and to The Ethiopian Jews and Israel on celebrating Sigd.  ● Happy Birthday to June Cohen, Leib Litman, and... YOU!

From the Rabbis and More…

 Rav Ovadia Yosef z”l  


על כבוד ההורים

שאלה: ישנו אדם שציער מאד את סבי בימי זקנותו, האם אני רשאי להיות ידיד שלו?

תשובה: כתב המהרש"ל בספר ים של שלמה (פ' החובל סימן נ), שאסור לבן למחול על כבוד אבותיו. וכן פסק הכנסת הגדולה, והביאו הגאון בן איש חי (פרשת שופטים). וכן פסק מרן זצ"ל בספר הליכות עולם (ח"ח עמוד קנב), שאם חירפו וגידפו את אבותיו, אסור לבן למחול על כבודם. ומכל מקום הביא בשם הגאון "יפה ללב", שלא ירים ידו על אותם שציערו את אבותיו, ולא יעשה איתם מריבות. ואם הבן יודע ומכיר שדרכם של אבותיו להיות סלחנים ומוחלים, ישתוק נגד המחרפים, שזהו כבודם של אבותיו. אבל למחול לגמרי, בלי שהפוגע ביקש את סליחתם, אי אפשר. וממילא אינך רשאי להיות ידיד של אדם שפגע וציער את סבך, ולמחול בכך על כבוד אבותיך.


שאלה: אם אמי אמרה לי לעשות משהו, ואבי שואל אותי מי אמר לך לעשות כך, האם אני יכול לומר לו: "אמא אמרה לי", למרות שהוא יכעס עליה?

תשובה: בספר חסידים (סימן שלו) כתב: שמי שעשה דבר כפי שציותה עליו אמו, ושאל אותו אביו מדוע ככה עשית, והבן משער שאם יאמר לו שכן ציותה עליו אמו, יכעס אביו על אמו ואולי אף יקלל אותה, לא יספר הבן לאביו שאמו ציותה עליו לעשות כן. ומדברי  מרן רבינו זצ"ל (שם עמוד קנד) משמע, שאפילו אם האב לא יעשה דבר, אלא רק יכעס על האם, ימנע הבן מלומר לאביו שכך אמו ציותה עליו, כי דבר זה עלול לגרום למריבה ולביטול שלום הבית. וממילא למדנו, שבמקרה שהנך שואל, אין לומר לאב "אמא אמרה לי", כדי שלא להפר את שלום הבית.

שאלה: האם חובה לכבד את בעלה של האמא לאחר פטירתה?

תשובה: בדין זה, האם חייב אדם לכבד את בעל אמו לאחר פטירתה, נחלקו רבותינו הראשונים. שהרמב"ם ומרן השלחן ערוך פסקו שמן הדין אדם אינו מחוייב בכבוד בעל אמו לאחר פטירתה. שהרי כעת הוא אינו בעלה של האם. אבל המאירי כתב שיש לכבד את בעל האם אף לאחר פטירתה. ולמעשה בודאי שהלכה כדברי מרן השלחן ערוך, שאין חיוב מן הדין לכבד את בעלה של האם אחרי פטירתה. אולם יש לציין שגם הרשב"ם (ב"ב דף קלא:) כתב שאדם חייב לכבד את אשת אביו אף לאחר פטירתו. ולמעשה כתב מרן רבינו עובדיה יוסף זצ"ל (שם עמוד קס), שהגון הדבר לכבדם אפילו לאחר מיתה, אף שכאמור, מן הדין אין חיוב בזה.

Daf Bite  –   טעם דף

Nidda 34a-b: When All Jews Become Connected

The Talmud Yerushalmi agrees that all Jews are considered ḥaverim during the pilgrimage holidays, and adds that in Massekhet Ḥagiga it derives from Sefer Tehillim (122:3) we find a pasuk that states “Jerusalem, that is built as a city that is compact together.”

The term “compact together” – ḥubbera lah yaḥdav – is understood as teaching that when all visit Jerusalem, they are all considered ḥaverim. In Massekhet Bava Kamma the Talmud Yerushalmi interprets that same passage as teaching that the city of Jerusalem binds the entire Jewish people together. The Maharatz Ḥayyut explains that these two interpretations of the passage in Tehillim complement each other. When Jews gather in Jerusalem it brings them together emotionally and spiritually, so that all are trusted and can join together in celebration.


A Moment of BAN

“People are dying for a word of encouragement”

- Dr Jordan B Peterson

A Jewish World - Ethiopian Jews

The Jewish Ethiopian community celebrated Sigd this past Tuesday night and Wednesday day, but we can keep celebrating.

- Sigd is one of the holy days of the Ethiopian Jewish community, known as Beta Israel, celebrated on the 29th of Ḥeshvan.

- Sigd is also called Mehlella meaning "pleading-תחינה or praising-הלל" or Amata Saww meaning "the gathering day-יום הקיבוץ."

- The word "sigd" means "prostration," referring to prostrate oneself in worship, and relates to the Hebrew "sgida" meaning "to worship" and the Arabic "masjid" and in Hebrew "misgad-מסגד" which means a mosque for Muslims and a synagogue for Middle East and North African Jews.

- Sigd is a day of fasting, purification, and renewal and a time of strengthening the community's faith and unity in light of persecution and isolation.

- Sigd has been celebrated since at least the 15th century when it was first mentioned, although some trace it to the 6th century.

- The day became an official state holiday in Israel since 2008, celebrated with a festive walk in gathering in Yerushalayim.

- As every good Jewish fast it is followed by a feast - Səudat Mitsva :)

- The blessing for Sigd is "Melkam Ba'al" meaning "Good Holiday" in Hebrew "Ḥag Tov - חג טוב."

- Another blessing is "LeSigd Enkuwan Aderesen = שהגיענו לזמן הזה של הסיגד"

- Melkam Ba'al :) - this and next year!

Time to Smile  

A: “How many Orthodox Rabbis does it take to change a lightbulb?”

A: “Change???"

In the Beginning

About 1 in 90 human births (1.1%) results from a twin pregnancy. The rate of twinning varies greatly among ethnic groups, ranging as high as about 45 per 1000 births (4.5%) for the Yoruba of west Africa, to 10% for Linha São Pedro of south Brazil. In Cândido Godói, Brazil, one in five pregnancies has resulted in twin. A high twinning rate has also been observed in other places of the world, including: Igbo-Ora in Nigeria, Kodinji, located in Kerala, India, and Mohammadpur Umri, located in Uttar Pradesh, India, and among the Hausa of the Savannah zone of Nigeria.


On the Parasha & Beyond…

Parasha: Toldot - Bereshit (Genesis) 25:19-28:9

Historical Context: Location: Negev. Creation Time: Beginning of the third millennium. Approx. 1700 bce.

Parashort: Rivka and Yitshak have twins, the smooth-skinned Yaakov, who Rivka favors, and the hairy Esav, who Yitshak favors. After coming home from a hunting trip, Esav asks his brother for some lentil soup, but Yaakov tells him he must trade him his birthright. Years later, when Yitshak is old and blind, Yaakov tricks his father into giving him the firstborn blessing. Yaakov leaves his home, out of fear of his brother, to find a wife at his uncle Lavan's house. (My Jewish Learning)

Haftara – Malachi, 1:1 – 2:7

Haftit: The Haftara begins with the Prophet Malachi bringing to our attention Hashem’s love for Ya’akov (Jacob).  The Kohanim (priests) despise the Temple service, and are told off for their unacceptable behavior.  To be Jewish is an opportunity and not a burden. The Kohanim honored Hashem even less than the Gentile Nations. Hashem’s criticizes Bnei Yisroel for bringing unacceptable animals to Bait Hamikdash (The Holy Temple). There is severe punishment for misusing Hashem’s House and His name.  The Haftorah concludes with the proper role of the Kohen and it recounts Aharon’s qualities for he was the image of the ideal Kohen. (

 Connection to the Parasha: We read in the haftara a sentence that says “A son honors his father, but where is my honor?” Hashem expected the nation of Edom (a descendant of Esav, Jacob’s brother and Isaac’s son) to be honorable. The Prophet Malachi says that Hashem never expected the Jewish people to desecrate His House. In this week’s Torah reading we see the intricate relationship between Esav and Ya’akov and Hashem’s choosing of the Ya’akov to be the main heir.

Speechless in the Parasha

Read the parasha while imagining that you are Rivka.

What does she feel, what her ultimate goal, and what does she do, and why?

Biblical Quiz: Toldot

Kids: How many babies did Rivka have in her tummy?

Teenagers: How old was Yitzhak when he married Rivka?

Adults: What did Yaakov give Esav with the pottage of lentils (n’zid adashim)?

Rabbis: What was Esav's first wife's name? How old was he when they got married?

Experts: How long had Yitzhak and Rivka been married when Esav and Yaakov were born?

Rav Question - שאלת רב

Does Rivka really love Ya’akov more than Esaw, her firstborn son?

Ktav Torah - Toldot

Parashat Toldot - "And Yitshak called unto Ya’akov, and blessed him, and commanded him... ‘you shall not take a wife from the daughters of Kəna’an.’"

The Hafets Hayim tells us that the Torah demonstrates to us how a father should turn to his son if he wants to influence him to go in the right way.

The parent must act with the child in a pleasant and gentle ways, not G-d forbids with an outburst of anger and annoyance, which usually achieves the opposite results.

And so, we see that our father Yitshak approached Ya’akov his son, before presenting what he wanted from him, first with warm words and gave him a wonderful father's blessing.

Only after an emotional connection and a positive atmosphere were created, only then did Yitshak make a practical request to Ya’akov: ”You will not take a woman from the Kəna’an’s daughters."

May me learn from Yitshak and implement his wisdom in all types of our multiple relationships in the complex society within which we live.

Shabbat shel Shalom. tbs

The Weekly Riddle

There are 10 fish in an aquarium. 2 died, 3 swam away, 4 drowned, and 1 had 2 baby-fish. How many fish are there in the aquarium?

(Guess before you take a peek. The answer is on the back page.)

A Story - of Coffee

One day in a highland area of Ethiopia near an Abyssinian monastery, a goat herder from Kaffa named Kaldi was herding his goats. The goats began to jump around—almost dancing—and bleat loudly, which was strange behavior for his herd. Kaldi found that a small shrub, or a cluster of shrubs, was the source of the excitement. Deciding to try the bright red berries for himself, Kaldi also felt the coffee cherries' energizing effects.

Amazed at this discovery, the goat herder filled his pockets and rushed home to tell his wife. Calling the find "heaven sent," she advised Kaldi to share the berries with the monks.

Kaldi did not receive the warmest of welcomes at the monastery. One monk referred to his coffee beans as "the Devil's work" and tossed them into the fire. According to the legend, the aroma that wafted up from the roasting beans caught the monks' attention. After removing the beans from the fire and crushing them to extinguish the embers, they attempted to preserve them in an ewer filled with hot water.

This newly brewed coffee had an aroma that attracted even more monks. After trying it, they experienced the uplifting effects for themselves. They vowed to drink it daily as an aid to their religious devotions and to keep them awake during prayers.


... and now you know whose idea was it to keep us awake even when we are ready for a goodnight sleep.  

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This Week’s BAN is Sponsored By:

Things That Matter

Birkat Hashana 5780 Campaign!

Take part in Birkat HaShana and get a special blessing for your family every shabbat as we open the Ark for Torah reading at Beth Aharon. Donation is $500 for the entire year. Your donation will help us with building Aron Kodesh for Bet Tefila Aharon at the 2BM. Last year we had 18 participants who will receive special and last blessing this shabbat :) Goal for this year 5780 is 36! Tizku. 


Beth Aharon AḤUZA Membership Campaign: 5780 - תש”ף

In tribute to BA’s upcoming 21 Year Anniversary (Gematria: AḤUZA=possession/holding-unto=אֲחֻזָּה), we are encouraging the community to join our 5780 Membership Campaign. Each person in our congregation brings with them a unique and special legacy of Jewish history that collectively makes us a diverse and multicultural community. Beth Aharon is our Auza - possession of the past, and we are ne'eazim, holding unto it, to build the future for our children. Demonstrate your communal spirit and support us by becoming a member. This year we are looking to raise funds for a new Aron Kodesh. This follows last year’s successful campaign acquiring comfortable blue chairs for everyone. Your presence and membership greatly enhances our Bet-Kneset and b’Ezrat Hashem our Tefilot. Shana Tova.


Support Beth Aharon! Thank you for joining Beth Aharon tefilot on Shabbatot & Hagim. Please support Beth Aharon. Mail donations, pledges, High Holidays 5780 and membership dues to: Congregation Beth Aharon/HIR, 3700 Henry Hudson Pkwy, Bronx, NY 10463. Check our website/blog to donate online and for daily updates: us via email: Tizku Leshanim Rabot V’tovot!


Kiddush Sponsorship is needed, welcome, and available

Every Shabbat after Musaf we have a welcoming kiddush for our congregants. Please join in eating and sponsoring for both celebrative or commemorative occasions. Any budget works!

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Place your business card for $36/ 1 Week or $252/ 17 Weeks or $576/ Full Year.


Fill up your Shabbat Table by inviting friends and guests. Need a table? Contact Beth Aharon Hospitality Committee: Rahel Wachsman: 718-644-9053 or Myriam Elefant: 908-370-2454 



Beth Aharon Hanuka Party 5780 will take place b"H on Motsash, Saturday night, Ner Sheviei shel Hanuka – 1 Tevet, December 28 @ 6:30pm @ the Bayit's social hall: Raffel, Kids Activities, Good Eats & More. Volunteers needed. Contact Rahel Wachsman for Raffle help.


Chulent Cook-off & Tisch - Friday, January 10th at 8:00pm

Think you’ve got the best chulent in town? Put it up against some

Competition! Love to eat chulent? Come taste the chulents at our annual Chulent-Cook-Off and Tisch with Dr. Elli Kranzler.

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In the Good News

- A Lebanese millionaire living in Switzerland bought Adolf Hitler’s top hat and other Nazi memorabilia to prevent them falling into the hands of far-Right activists.

Abdallah Chatila successfully bid euros $797,000 at an auction in Munich for the items, which also include a cigar box and typewriter that once belonged to the dictator.

“I wanted to buy these objects so that they would not be used for neo-Nazi propaganda purposes,” Mr Chatila told the Swiss newspaper Le Matin Dimanche. “My approach is totally apolitical and neutral.”

Chatila said he originally planned to destroy the objects, but now intend to donate them to Keren Hayesod, an Israeli fundraising organisation.

In your view, what should Israel do with the items?

Riddle Solved


Dead fish remain in the aquarium. Fish can not swim away from the aquarium. Fish can not drown. And if you don’t remove baby-fish from the aquarium, the bigger fish eat it.

Biblical Quiz - Answers: Toldot

Kids: 2 babies; Teenagers: 40 years; Adults: Bread;

Rabbis: Judith. 40 years. Experts: 20 years.

Congregation Beth Aharon is Riverdale’s Sephardic Orthodox Congregation, located at the Riverdale Bayit (HIR) Bronx, NY. We welcome all worshipers regardless of eda or level of observance. Our congregants take an active-leading role in Tefila and Kria’at haTorah.