By Flouer Evelyn


Books / Articles
That have influenced me


I am often trying to become a happier, more fulfilled person that can work harmoniously with the world around me.  These books have influenced my dancing, my teaching, my relationships, and the way I think about the world.  

What I’m Jiving on Currently

Essentialism: The disciplined art of doing less.

By Greg McKeown

This book came at exactly the right time for me, giving me inspiration to pair down my life and decide on what really matters.  It has allowed me to do things like make this document!

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

By Jon M Gottman & Nan Silver

Awesome and easy relationship advice based on real research.  Has helped me come to realizations about myself and what I need from a partner in ways that have brought me tremendous closeness and happiness.

The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment

By Jack Morin

A psychologist’s research into how our minds work in sexuality.  Used as a foundation for many sex therapists.  Fascinating, revealing.  The footnotes are great and give context.  

Black and White Styles in Conflict

By Thomas Kochman

This is a really interesting dive into cultural racial norms in America.  It will give you context and empathy for people of other cultures, and perhaps a fresh perspective of yourself.  It has helped me to confront my own racism and see a little of what I was not seeing before.  It was also written in the 60’s and like many books written during that time, I have critique of some of the wording and biases of the author.  This doesn’t take much away from the main concepts, though.  

The War of Art

By Steven Pressfield

Overcome “Resistance” and find your true inner calling.

Foundational: Books of my Past 

Nonviolent Communication


By Marshall Rosenberg

The beginning of any journey into examining your own feelings and being able to communicate effectively with others.  Lays down the main concepts that many other books elaborate on and develop.  There are two aspects:  Changing one’s speaking, and changing one’s listening.  Both are important.  

Attached: The New Science for Adult Attachment

 By Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller

A book about attachment styles in adults and how they affect your relationships.  Great information, but rather hetero-normative and monogamy-normative.  

The Creative Habit: Learn it and Use it for Life.

By Twyla Tharp

Twyla Tharp is one of the artists I admire.  This book as well as it’s sequel The Collaborative Habit, were major sources of inspiration for me years ago.  Worth the read.