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Shabbat Ki-Tetse Shalom from Beth Aharon @ The Bayit or a bayit: 

August 29, 2020 | ט’ אלול תש"ף - Issue #5780:50

Zəmanim & Təfilot

Shabbat Parashat Ki-Tetse

29 August 2020 * 9 Elul 5780

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Earliest Candle Lighting - 6:11pm

Candle Lighting - 7:15pm

Minḥa/Kabbalat- Shabbat/Arvit - 6:45pm

Shaḥarit - 8:30am * Latest Shəma - 9:38am

Zohar - 6:50pm * Minḥa - 6:55pm

Shəkiעa - 7:32pm * Arvit - 8:12pm

Tset Hakokhavim / Havdala - 8:17pm

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Regular Week Prayers (Tefilat Avraham)

Check your email for and the Bayit bulletin full updates.

We try to pray at the same time at shuls, backyards, and homes :)

Picture of the Week

OBJECTS ON YOUR CALENDAR ARE CLOSER THAN THEY APPEAR 

A Moment of BAN

“Judaism is all about loving kindness”

- Myra Estelle (www.myraestelle.com)

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In the Beginning

A United States presidential nominating convention is a political convention held every four years in the United States by most of the political parties who will be fielding nominees in the upcoming US presidential election. The formal purpose of such a convention is to select the party's nominee for popular election as President, as well as to adopt a statement of party principles and goals known as the party platform and adopt the rules for the party's activities, including the presidential nominating process for the next election cycle.

The Federalist Party invented the first national conventions in 1808 and 1812 when they held secret national meetings to pick their candidates. The Democratic-Republican Party never used conventions. Instead its members of Congress met in party caucuses to select the nominee. The first national convention of the Democratic Party began in Baltimore on May 21, 1832. The first Republican National Convention was held in the Musical Fund Hall in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, on June 17 to 19, 1856.

This Shabbat & Beyond

This Shabbat marks our 25th corona-days shabbat and counting.

Bayit Qabalat Shabbat: 6:05pm - with Rav Ezra: zoom.us/j/6136133703

● Tefilat Shaḥarit: 8:30am - Pre-Registration is required. 

● This Shabbat marks the return of Tot Shabbat: 11:30am Shabbat mornings on the Bayit Terrace. Space is limited to 10 families and advance registration is required.

● Tefilat Minḥa: 6:55pm - Pre-Registration is required. 

Motsae Shabbat Melave Malka: 8:45pm w/ Rabba Bracha: zoom.us/j/6136133703.

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 Our prayers with the families of Texans and Luisianinas who perished and those who were harmed by Hurricane Laura.

 Mazal Tov to Jessica & Richard Langer on the marriage of their daughter Ronit to her beloved, Andrew Katz.

  Happy Birthday to all Elul-September birthdays, and to... YOU!

 Shuls are Safely Opened for prayers along with the practice of backyards and zoom tefilot. B”H ALL the Bayit tefilot will return to its normal practice and place soon. Hashem hears everywhere’s Tefila.

Special thanks to our board members, Ami, Myriam, Akiva Small, Roberta, and Shoshana for organizing our tefilot. Check the back page for Elul’s Tefilot details.

We Salute Riverdale leaders for showing togetherness in a united Riverdale community during these corona-days. Special thanks to Myriam Elefant and Rav Dov.

 Let us Riverdalians be a leading example for all New-Yorkers!

Shabbat shel Shalom

From the Rabbis and More…

Rav Ovadia Yosef z”l   ovadia.jpg

בין אדם לחברו - במשנה במסכת יומא (דף פה:), דרש רבי אלעזר בן עזריה: נאמר בתורה (ויקרא טז) על יום הכיפורים, כי ביום  הזה יכפר עליכם לטהר אתכם מכל חטאתיכם "לפני ה'" תטהרו. עבירות שבין אדם למקום (לה') יום הכפורים מכפר (אם עשה תשובה), עבירות שבין אדם לחברו אין יום הכיפורים מכפר עד שירצה (כלומר יפייס) את חבירו. ולכן אם הקניט את חבירו, או פגע בו בכל דרך שהיא, חייב לפייסו שימחל לו על מה שנעשה. וכשמבקש מחילה מחברו, אין ראוי לחברו להכביד עליו ולסרב למחול לו.

וכן פסק רבינו הרמב"ם (פ"ב מהל' תשובה) וזו לשונו: אין התשובה ולא יום הכפורים מכפרין אלא על עבירות שבין אדם למקום, אבל עבירות שבין אדם לחברו אין יום הכיפורים מכפר עד שירצה את חברו. לא רצה חברו למחול לו, מביא לו שלושה בני אדם מריעיו (מידידיו) ומבקשין ממנו שימחל. לא נתרצה להם, מביא לו שניה ושלישית (כלומר בא לפניו עם עוד שלושה מריעיו ושוב עוד שלושה מריעיו), לא רצה (למחול), מניחו והולך לו, וזה שלא מחל הוא החוטא. (שהיה לו לרחם על חבירו ששב בתשובה ולמחול לו.) ואם היה רבו (כלומר שחטא כלפי רבו), הולך ובא אפילו אלף פעמים עד שימחל לו.

אסור לאדם להיות אכזרי ולא להתפייס, אלא יהיה נוח לרצות (למחול) וקשה לכעוס, ובשעה שמבקש ממנו החוטא למחול, מוחל לו בלב שלם ובנפש חפיצה, וזהו דרכם של ישראל ולבם הנכון.

Daf Bite  –  טעם דף

Eruvin 18a-b: Duos in Public and in the Torah

The Gemara asks: What are deyomadin? Rabbi Yirmeya ben Elazar said: Two [deyo] posts [amudin], which are put together to create a single corner piece. Rabbi Yirmeya ben Elazar suggests that it is from the Greek word "duo", and that the word is "duo-amudim" – double standing walls.

This leads the Gemara to offer a list of expressions that are based on the concept of duo. For example, Rabbi Yirmeya ben Elazar suggests, based on the passage in Tehillim 139:5 – Ahor Va-kedem Tzartani (“you have formed me behind and before”) – that God’s original creation of man was deyo-partzuf – double faced. This fits in with one of the explanations of the creation of man (in Bereshit 2:23), on which there is a disagreement between Rav and Shmuel.

 One said: It means a female face, from which God created Eve; and one said: Adam was created with a tail [zanav], which God removed from him and from which He created Eve.

The passage in Bereshit indicates that Eve was created from Adam’s tsela’. Although the word tsela’ is usually translated as “rib,” the amoraim argue as to whether it means “face,” in agreement with Rabbi Yirmeya ben Elazar's explanation, or if it means zanav. (steinsaltz.org)

Ktav Tora - Ki- Tetse

 Parashat Ki-Tetse - "Remember what Amalek did to you ... that he met you on the road" - "זכור את אשר עשה לך עמלק... אשר קרך בדרך"

In this Tora portion, the language used is always a second person singular: “remember-zakhor... to you-lekha... within you-bekha.” Rav Simcha Bunim of Peshischa explains that Amalek could have struck a person of Yisrael only when he was by himself, retiring from all the people. But those who remained together, connected to the entire Bne Yisrael community, were protected and were not harmed by Amalek. And this is a lesson for all generations: as long as we - a nation, a community - are in unity, we could not be ruled or be harmed by those who seek to harm us. tbs.

 - From Rav Avraham Fayadi

The Weekly Riddle

The more you take of me, the more you leave behind you. What am I?

(Guess before you take a peek. The answer is on the back page.)

CBA High Holidays 5781 with a Sephardic Tune

Beth Aharon for our traditional High Holiday Services will be held under corona restrictions.

Check your email for information and a mandatory pre-registration.

 Rosh Hashana: Friday Evening - September 18; Saturday & Sunday – September 19 & 20.

Yom Kippur: Sunday Evening - September 28; Monday - September 29.

Stay tuned for the High Holidays 5781 prayer details.

Rega’ shel ‘Ivrit

When speaking of the national capital of the United Arab Emirates, Israelis say אַבּוּ דַּאבִּי.

For example: בא לי לטוס לאבו דאבי - I feel like flying to Abu Dhabi.

But if we do some comparative semitics, we’ll find that Israelis could, if they wished, translate it to proper Hebrew:

 אַב הַצְּבִי – father of the gazelle.

Why? Because the Arabic word ظبي (dhabi) means antelope or gazelle, which in Aramaic is טביא and in Hebrew is צבי - essentially different pronunciations of the same word. Similarly, the Arabic أبو (abu) - which means father of - is in Hebrew, אב.

(Source: ulpan.com, with Yesha’ya’s help :)

Could the name possibly have a deeper meaning? B”H I will share on the next BAN. In the meantime let’s dream that we are flying to Av haTsvi. tbs :)

In the Good Corona News

- Freddie Bloom was born in 1904 and survived the 1918 Spanish Flu. This week, Freddie died a natural death at his Cape Town home at the age of 116. May his soul rest in peace.

- A history in the making. El Al will make the first flight from Israel to the United Arab Emirates. Furthermore, the flight will go through the airspace and over the sands of Saudi Arabia.

- A miner of Gem Diamonds Ltd. unearthed a giant 442-carat diamond at its Letšeng mine in Lesotho, Africa. The diamond is reportedly worth up to $25 million! Btw, if you want it, it is not in the heavens... it is a little bit further :)

Time to Smile  

- Without Messi Barça’s mess is messier.

- In the small country of the United Arab Emirates, there are 2 Jewish communities led by 2 separate rabbis - each claiming the Chief Rabbi title. Surely, we did not expect otherwise, as we know the rule: 20 Jews 2 shuls. Besides, it is not a bad idea these corona-days to keep some social-distancing. Nonetheless, the political intrigue does not greatly interfere with community life as the local Jews simply go to pray where there is a better kiddush.

On the Parasha & Beyond…

Parasha: Ki-Tetse - Devarim (Deuteronomy) 21:10-25:19

Historical Context: Creation Time: 2487 (1437 BCE).

Bnei Israel's 40-year journey is close to an end as they encamped in the plains of Moab, across the Jordan from Jericho, on the first day of the 12th month of the 40th year.

Parashort: Ki Tetse details many laws among them of the beautiful captive, the rebellious son, burial and dignity of the dead, returning a lost object, sending away the mother bird before taking her young, the duty to erect a safety fence around roofs, the prohibition of turning in an escaped slave, workers’ right to be paid on time, the right treatment of a debtor, laws of divorce and marriage. Finally, the obligation to remember what Amelek did to Bnei Israel on the road on the way out of Egypt (Chabad).

Haftara: 5/7 Ki-Tetse- Yesha’yahu (Isaiah) 54:1-10

Haftit: “Rani ‘Akara Lo Yalada.” Yesha’yahu laments the city of Yerushalayim and is grieving over the loss of her people. Yet, there is comfort given and the land is told that her people will be restored to her and that she will not be shamed. Yesha’yahu tells the land that G-d is bringing back all her inhabitants. G-d makes a promise similar to the one made to Noah; He will never become angry again and peace will endure forever. (Haftorahman)

Connection to the Parasha: The haftara is the fifth of seven haftarot known as the “Seven of Consolation” - from after Tish’a b’Av until Shabbat Shuva, before Rosh Hashana. During this time, concentration should be on repentance, improving one’s behavior, and spiritual uplifting.

Speechless in the Parasha: Ki-Tetse

The parasha includes ample of mitsvot, many of which are not implementable today. As you read the Parasha find out 3 which are not implementable today and 3 which you have managed to fulfill.

Biblical Quiz: Ki-Tetse

Kids: How many Mitsvot are given to us in the Torah?

Teenagers: How many Mitsvot in the entire Torah are “aseh” and how many “lo-ta’ase?”

Adults: How many Mitsvot are there in our parasha?

Rabbis: Of the entire Torah mitsvot, how many can we practically observe today?

Rav Question - שאלת רב

Do facts don’t care about your feelings, or do feelings don’t care about facts?

Dvar Torah Ki-Tetse: 9 Elul 5780-29 August 2020. By Rav Dov Lerea

The Sacred Obligation to Guard Against the Abuse of Power and Protect the Vulnerable: Parashat Ki Tetzei challenges us in two ways. Contemporary readers might find many mitzvot offensive. For example, the laws of the captive woman, the unloved wife, the rape of married and unmarried women, the rebellious son, cross-dressing, and physical mutilations challenge many modern assumptions and sensibilities about violence, abuse, freedom of expression, human dignity and violent crime. Furthermore, the literary structure of the parasha puzzles the reader. What do all of these mitzvot have to do with each other? The more examples one brings, the less coherent the parasha seems. Some examples include laws requiring one to shoo away a bird from the fledglings, to not return runaway slaves to their masters, to enclose a flat roof, to return lost objects, to validate the virginity of a bride, to not charge interest of fellow-Jews, to set parameters for collateral for a loan, to bury the corpse of an executed criminal, to pay employees on time, to not collect food from a neighbor’s fields in a basket, to require levirate marriages, to have equal weights and measures, and to prohibit marriage between Israelite women and Moabite and Amonite men. And yet, without working through the details here of all of these mitzvot, all of them actually cohere around one central value that emerges as sacred in the heart of Jewish spirituality. Every one of these mitzvot, in obvious ways for some and oblique ways for others, protect the weak, the poor, the vulnerable, the dependent, the outsider, and the pariah, from a potential abuse of power at the hands of the majority, the dominant, the male, the empowered, or the privileged.

Here is a clear example: When you harvest your field and forget a sheaf, do not turn back to get it. That sheaf of grain you left in the field shall now go to the immigrant, the orphan, and the widow, so that the LORD your God may bless you in all your undertakings. When you harvest your olive trees, do not go over them again. The fruit remaining in the trees shall go to the immigrant, the orphan, and the widow. When you gather the grapes of your vineyard, do not pick them a second time. Whatever remains on the vines shall go to the immigrant, the orphan, and the widow. Always remember that you were a slave in the land of Egypt; therefore do I enjoin you to observe this commandment. (24:19-22)

Rabbi Avraham Ibn Ezra offers the following explanation of this mitzvah. On the phrase, in order that the Lord, your God, may bless you, he wrote: “...for you gave of what you only imagine to be yours; but God will give to you of that which is actually God’s.” We live comfortably in this world, nestled and coddled in the assumption that all that we have is coming to us, that we deserve all we possess, that we have ownership of the world. What this entire parasha instructs, and what Ibn Ezra emphasizes, is that once we realize that we own nothing, that life and the world and our health, and our food, and the relationships we build together are all blessings and gifts, we will naturally feel compelled to reach out to others and give freely. That is our mandate, in the belief that we humans are all innately religious, spiritual beings: to give to others. This includes food, clothing, money, time, expertise, love, friendship, companionship, shelter, skills, knowledge, protection, and anything else one person has and another requires.

I am proposing that all of the mitzvot in this parasha protect against abuses. Taken collectively, the Torah generates a typology of circumstances which contain vulnerabilities and potential abuse. Women are taken captive in war; the captor must dignify her humanity by enabling her to mourn the loss of her family and to insure her freedom should the relationship end. People build houses; homeowners are responsible to protect guests on their flat roofs. Employees are at the whim of their employers, so bosses must pay salaries on time. The poor remain at the mercy of their creditors, so life-saving equipment like mill-stones or blankets cannot be taken as collateral for loans. The hungry depend upon farmers, so farmers cannot go back and re-harvest forgotten produce a second time. Even the humanity of an executed criminal depends upon the will of society to dignify and not denigrate their remains. The Torah forbids leaving the body of the executed on a pike overnight; society must bury it. Commentators understand the prohibition against cross-dressing in their parasha as contextualized in situations in which men are trying to infiltrate a cohort of women with sexually abusive intentions.

Two of the most challenging mitzvot here include the rules governing the rape of an unmarried woman, and the reactions to the “wayward” child, the ben sorer umoreh. The case of the unmarried rape victim is particularly challenging. The law here is that the rapist has an obligation to marry his victim and is never allowed to divorce her. We could not imagine a more horrific rule. However, the rabbis of the Torah shebe’al-peh explicate the details of these laws in ways that reveal important assumptions. One assumption here is that the woman in ancient society is better off protected by security and money in a home, than single and alone, even if she would be emotionally unhappy. The assumption is also that she would no longer suffer continued physical and emotional abuse at the hands of the now-husband rapist.

The rabbis in the Torah sheb’al Peh provide more details of these laws of rape. Rape of a single woman carries a heavy monetary fine plus the rapist has to pay reparations for damages, as well as for her suffering, embarrassment and emotional anguish. The rapist also incurs the corporeal punishment of lashes. This is all intended as both a deterrent and a punishment. (Rambam hilchot Rotzai'ach 2:4-5). In addition, the rabbis explain that

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 the woman is not forced to marry her rapist; the rapist must, by law, agree to marry and care for her should she decide to exercise that option, as unimaginable as that is to us. (Talmud Bavli, Ketubot 39a-b.) These halachot attest to the Torah’s ultimate concern for the victim’s physical, emotional, psychological and economic well-being and security. Those are the only concerns at play, contextualized in the cultural setting of our ancient ancestors.

Women today would describe what is needed to insure their healing, safety and security very differently. But as different as it certainly is, the revolutionary commitment of the Torah to the well-being, security, healing and safety of the victim remains. I am suggesting that the Torah’s commitment to the victim’s well-being is strikingly much more foundational than that of contemporary societies. Were modern societies to apply the same sensibilities at the heart of this teaching, we would make every unconditional effort to identify the deep, nuanced nature of the victim’s suffering and bring all legal force to bear on her healing as well as consequences against the rapist. Perhaps the most powerful principle here is that the Torah legislates legal responsibility to society for insuring that a rape victim is compensated in ways that can enable her to be safe and secure, and with reparations that might compensate for the unfathomable damage done through the assault to her body and personhood. (For a contemporary analysis, see, Jewish Orthodox Feminist Alliance: How do the rabbis address rape?)

The laws governing the “wayward” son are just as challenging. How could we ever imagine a situation in which parents bring a complaint against their child, resulting in his public execution? The majority of rabbinic voices in the Babylonian Talmud also could not, and claimed that such  a case never existed, and never will. (Bavli Sanhedrin 71a. Rabbi Yochanan claims he saw such a case.) Shira Koller-Hecht makes a compelling case for understanding the law of ben sorer umoreh as protecting society from potentially abusive patriarchal power. The father is not in charge. Both parents must bring the complaint against the son, and the society at large, not the parents, execute the sentence. This law establishes a paradigm for establishing boundaries protecting elderly parents from their abusive child, as well as limiting the otherwise unlimited power of the paterfamilias in the clan or family. (See, Shira Koller-Hect, Torat Emet: The Jurisprudential Truth of Torah)

Abuse knows no bounds, unless boundaries are imposed. This statement characterizes our current reality in America. When peaceful demonstrations erupt and explode into uncontrolled rage, too few leaders demand that society take the rage, the anger, the hurt, the impotence, the vulnerability seriously. Anger and unbridled violence terrify, but they are the result of deeper, more painful feelings. We seem to be surrounded by fear, and as a result, by uncontrolled behaviors. During a pandemic, we see rage at the demand to wear masks, and rage at the refusal to do so. We see rage in response to the incessant shooting of black men, and rage in response to the rage of looting and the destruction of businesses and neighborhoods. We see rage in response to demands for more gun control, and rage in response to the absence of control. We are surrounded by rage because we are surrounded by fear, and fear comes from the deep, deep feeling of vulnerability, of not being safe and protected. When an entire society feels the desperation of its own vulnerability--those of privilege fearing the loss of their well-being, and those castigated by society fearing the lack of any future and everyone in-between--no truth can rescue that society. Truth in America today has been transformed into competing narratives, false facts, fake news, and lies.

This condition of society, a society ensnared in the unbridled rage of fear with no concern for justice, righteousness, dignity, decency, civility, or truth, is precisely what Moshe legislates to prevent. He legislates for a society that demands of everyone the absolute commitment to protect all vulnerabilities, to curb the abuse of power in all circumstances, from the simple, private requirement of building a fence around your roof (because that is your job) to insuring that a rape victim is cared for for the rest of her life--in whatever terms society understands as authentic and responsive. This commitment requires the diminishing of ego, a spiritual discipline related to rejecting idolatrous self-worship.

Rashi himself wondered about the big picture of parashat Ki Tetzei. He asked himself, “What is the underlying principle of organization throughout the parasha? How should we understand the juxtaposition of these seemingly random mitzvot?” He wonders about this from the outset. The very first set of rules govern the reality that as spoils of war, a victor will take a woman as booty. One should not denigrate a person by doing so, but the Torah recognizes that this is what will happen. Rashi wrote: “You are allowed to take her, that beautiful woman from the enemy camp, as a wife (not as a servant or slave).” [Nevertheless], the Torah is speaking about our base nature, our yetzer, the evil inclination…. For if he marries her, he will ultimately come to despise her, so the Torah writes after this: “If a man has [two wives-one beloved and the other despised].” [Furthermore, this union will be filled with acrimony, such that] he will ultimately father through her a wayward and rebellious son. For this reason, these passages are juxtaposed. (Devarim 21:11) Rashi is describing societal entropy. One moment leads to the next, until society spins out of control. What is needed is an ethical recalibration. The only antidote is a society committed to a sense of responsibility for each other, motivated by humility, by a recognition that we all share the same Creator, that to abuse a person, or animals, or the environment, diminishes holiness in the world, and that our task is to insure that our world not become a godless place.

Shabbat Shalom, Rabbi Dov

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Rəfuaa Shəlema to ‘Am Yisrael wounded bodies & souls and the sick: Reuven ben Aliza, Menachem ben Yehudit, Yig’al ben Sulika,, Ilana bat Victoria, Meira Esther bat Devora, Yehudit bat Sara, Naftali Yesha'ya Asher ben Esther, and all the ḥolim.

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The Weekly Riddle Solved

Footsteps.

Biblical Quiz: Ki-Tetse - Answers

* Kids: 613; * Teenagers: 248 aseh and 365 lo-ta’ase;

* Adults: 74; * Rabbis: Rabbi Israel Meir of Radin, commonly known as the Chafetz Chayim, has identified 77 positive mitzvot and 194 negative mitzvot which can be observed outside of Israel today. Piece of cake…

Congregation Beth Aharon is Riverdale’s Sephardic Orthodox Congregation, located at the Riverdale Bayit (HIR) Bronx, NY. We welcome all worshipers regardless of eda or level of observance. Our congregants take an active-leading role in Tefila and Kria’at haTorah.