Beyond the Eyes 2024 Open House, Dr. Robin Eubanks Keynote Speaker 

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Beyond The Eyes Open House September

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2024 Dr Robin Eubanks PhD associate

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professor Ruckers University School of

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Health Professions keynote and

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motivational

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[Applause]

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[Music]

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speaker this as my brother James and Jim

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I am home I feel at home I'm part of the

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family that's the way I okay right and I

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almost say I had a lot of I had a lot of

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church lot of

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Amen I'm going try to stay focused but

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y'all going to get me a trouble up in

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here go ahe now go ahead I'm going try

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to say cuz there is another hat that I

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do yes you do yes you do and I am

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ordained so I'm I'm going to try to stay

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focused but I can't get you in trouble

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in a minute here but I'm going stay

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where I am amen but I just thank you and

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I thank for the privilege always to take

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part and always to be able and I hope

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for just a few moments to be able to let

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me see see if I can I'm I'm going turn

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myself a little this way cuz I got

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people on my other side and this side

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okay let's see if we can do this way and

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we're just going to have just a few

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moments to talk a little bit about us to

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us spook with uh Jim and talking about

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that it's time to it's time to heal our

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hope that's what I'm going to talk about

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it's time to heal our hope and I want to

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begin with a very interesting quote that

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I came across with that I thought was

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quite powerful and I thought it was just

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quite interesting I'm going to just read

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this and it says that your soul needs

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hope the same way your lungs need oxygen

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to survive wow now you know we almost

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just say amen and sit down right that

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one line right all right I I just your

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soul needs hope the same way your lungs

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need oxygen to survive you cannot be

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healthy without hope when hope walks out

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fear and discouragement and depression

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and anxiety and other hurtful things

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Walk

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In Hope is Heaven's healing

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antibiotic huh that kills a virus

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of

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fear have hope have hope that's just

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starting out y'all that's just starting

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out go ahead all right so it begins

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right it begins and I want to begin by

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identifying what might actually need to

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be healed so to speak what might

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actually need to be healed right cuz

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sometime when we talk about how to heal

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hope we got to think about what actually

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might quote unquote need to be healed

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sometimes unfulfilled dreams need to be

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healed sometimes desires need to be

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healed sometimes Broken Hearts and

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Spirits need to be healed uh-oh

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sometimes relationships need to be

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healed uh-oh sometimes there's a spirit

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of forgiveness that needs to take place

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oh Lord have mercy I'm trying so hard to

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hold on to this right said I'm hold of

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the

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pulpit okay right there's a little there

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there's a little side note that I do

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we're doing a whole Workshop series on

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forgiveness that we're going all over

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the country we're doing an actual

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forgiveness tour I'm doing a little side

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piece on another hat I wear and let me

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give you a quicky a quicky quote on

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forgiveness forgiveness true forgiveness

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forgiveness is giving up the right to

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hurt the one that hurt you wow I'm going

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let y'all sit on that for a little while

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just I'm just true forgiveness is giving

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up the right you might have every right

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to get back at that person

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but you give up the right to hurt the

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one that hurt you cuz you know that

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you're a bigger person from that and you

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don't want the weight of unforgiveness

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in your spirit cuz you want to move

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forward with what you want to

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do it must be somebody's Podium right

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here

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see that wasn't even what I was supposed

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to speak on right but again there's some

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things that need to be healed of

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relationships uh emotional wounds

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sometimes wavering Faith might need to

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be be healed but what I want to say

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about talking about about this healing

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process is the fact that it's just that

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ladies and gentlemen it is a process

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healing of Hope and any kind of healing

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is a process it's a step by step it

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doesn't happen in two seconds it doesn't

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happen like this it is a process and it

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begins with a mindset that there is

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something that I want to hear and it

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takes time it takes a process and it

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starts with a decision

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so the healing process is the healing is

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a journey but it is not again it is not

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necessarily the when I say a step by

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step it's not okay do a then do B then

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do c because you know what you need to

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do what is going to work for you and

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what makes most sense for you and what

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most sense to you not everybody's

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process is the same because everybody

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has not been through the same thing I

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know that's true right not everybody has

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been through the same thing nobody truly

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knows what you've been through but just

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you and

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God so again it is a process but it is

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something that you have to do that's

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going to work for you so the healing

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process to heal is important to accept

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and acknowledge though where you are and

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then look at the situation at hand and

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then you ask yourself what is the real

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problem I'm going let that saor for just

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a second

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what is the real

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problem right see look look at this

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sentence that I just talked about if you

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notice I did not say what do I feel the

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real problem

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is I said what is the real problem

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because when you go that way then you

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are seeking the

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facts too many times we go with what we

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feel the real problem is but I'm saying

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what is the real problem see when we

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look at the facts we're going to begin

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to understand the scope of any situation

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and stop clouding it with a lot of

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emotion and a lot of feelings a lot of

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feelings a lot of times are not based on

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facts they're based on emotions now I

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don't deny emotions but we got to

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understand and get some clarity to

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emotions where have they come from and

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based on what and are they really clear

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with the facts

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so feelings are imprints of beliefs and

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thoughts and things like that and

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perspectives again but are they always

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really

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factual so if we are still struggling

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and speaking with the facts then we have

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to switch to the questions how did I

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really get here anybody ever ask thems

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that you ever end up somewhere you say

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how no world did I end up here Lord have

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mercy right how did I end up here right

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we ain't pop up here how what are the

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facts how did I get here and when the

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answer really comes then you ask okay

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now I understand the facts of how I got

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here but again the question is okay now

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where do I go from here where do I now

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go from here what are the facts now and

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what do I now need to do all right so

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now and cuz you know again the question

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doesn't say where do I feel I want to go

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now the question is what do I do to now

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move forward what do I do and say that

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facts driven kind of question is a far

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better than than you use it as what's

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called Direction pointers it gets me

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moving in a way that I can move

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forward so once the facts are

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established it's time to open up an

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honest look at

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yourself uh-oh we don't always like that

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one do there's an honest look at

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ourselves there an honest look at our

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ourselves this is a place where most

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people abandon the concept of healing

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who they

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are this why I got people running out of

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the workshop right there when I start

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closing the door and start saying let's

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really start looking at the real us

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that's when some people say uh Dr Robin

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I I got to go I got to go now see see

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I'm my my PhD is in csing Psychology I

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can tell when some of my clients ain't

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going to come back to the next session

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cuz when we start really start hitting

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home all of a sudden they got amnesia

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right right they don't want to come back

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anymore see when you start un layering

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the layers and you start trying to hit

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home all of a sudden they're not ready

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yet but some of us at this point and but

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I don't I don't I don't push that

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because I've noticed in life that there

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are times when we are finally there are

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seasons in your life that you are

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finally ready to deal with what you're

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ready with and there are some Seasons

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you're not ready and that's okay that's

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okay but when you are finally ready to

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deal with what it is that you're ready

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to deal with know that it is time know

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that it is time and it's no longer time

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to avoid it anymore it's time to deal

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with something some of us have some

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stuff that we know it's time to deal

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with that has been in a box for a long

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time there's some stuff and some

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childhood stuff that it's time to deal

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with right now and you are strong enough

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now to go ahead and deal with it you

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weren't strong enough 10 years ago but

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you're strong enough right now because

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you have built yourself up with what you

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have been through in the last several

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years that you have a strength now

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inside of you that is stronger than you

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ever thought you were ever going to

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happen but now it's a time to unleash

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something that has been there sitting

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there for a long time that was not even

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on my no somebody needed to hear that

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you speaking I know I'm speaking cuz I'm

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feeling I also brought some oil I told I

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said I wasn't going to do it right now

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but something coming up in

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here

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Lord me to do that but anyway but we

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have to understand what our role is in

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that situation and where we are what is

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our

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responsibility and know again what it is

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right so it's easy cuz see it's easy

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sometime to assign blame to somebody

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else is it not and sometime we we want

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to limit our ownership or our

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responsibility of why we might be where

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we are let's blame this one let's blame

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blame the system let's blame this one

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let's blame that one guess what stop for

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a moment and look in the

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mirror stop for a moment and look in the

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mirror by doing this give but see what

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we don't understand when we always do

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that we give away the power of change

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because guess what you can change ain't

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nobody perfect we all got things that we

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got to work on but once you decide that

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I'm going to work on it I'm going to

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take my time and do step by step and

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it's okay ain't nobody perfect you do

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whatever it is that's going to work for

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you but if you continue to blame it's

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going to require when you think about it

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when you waiting for somebody else to

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change and come to your rescue you

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waiting for that person to always come

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to your

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rescue and that's not going to work

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release the

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blame release the blame they cannot they

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there cannot be total freedom or total

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healing

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so the important question is which lens

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really do we see life through what is

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that perspective so let's get to a point

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where we know I love this poll here that

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we got to understand that when we come

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to these bends in the road a bend in the

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road is not the end of the road unless

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you fail to make deter right

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right understand that oh understand that

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abandon the road ain't the end of the

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road unless you fail to make deter huh

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too many of us have come to that bend of

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the road and we panicked we had a Bend

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of the road and we didn't know where

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that go but that bend of the road ain't

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the end of the road unless you fail to

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make the turn some of us you are right

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on that tip you on a Tippy T right there

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and you know it there's a turn that got

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to happen right now guess what hold on

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put your seat belt on and take that turn

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right now cuz it's time for you to take

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that

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turn it's time for you to take that turn

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[Applause]

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I know I am I can't help goad

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now it's inside of me I know I have to

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we need a new way to look at anything

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that is that unmet hope that unmet hope

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we got to know we got to need a know way

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to look at it when we accept that our

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past may have not gone the way we want

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to but please know that that's not a

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failure that's right oh thank you Holy

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Spirit somebody need to hear that again

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your past might not have gone the way

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you wanted but no that is not a failure

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that is a growth experience that is a

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growth experience you have to learn how

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to rephrase things that didn't work the

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way you wanted it's not a failure you

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didn't know what I say my de right there

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at the door right there I don't say

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failure anymore I say I have

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successfully found another way in which

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it won't work oh that's another way to

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say it h oh you got to learn how to re

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yourself some I no failure I found

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another way in which it won't work I

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have grown from it and I getting up

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again cuz a set back is a set up for a

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comeback and I got to do whatever it is

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that I have to

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do it releases us to start looking ahead

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and to get our hope up again for all it

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is that is still to take place so

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something again that you didn't say to

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yourself that yes I may have some unmet

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hopes of yesterday that stop holding

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holding up my cap my thoughts but I can

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confident look forward because I know

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there's something else still to come I

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know there's something still to come I

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know there's something still to

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come and you know what we know this in

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life sometimes we can't control the

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storms in life sometimes what you just

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got to outlive

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them out hello right a that the truth

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right we can't control the storms of

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life they just th girl was for a whim

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sometime sometimes you just got to

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outlive them you can't control the

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storms of life sometimes you just got to

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outlive

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them so while you're on your way to

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Healing your hope don't believe that the

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challenging

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circumstances that you may be in a final

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a newness is coming somebody y I hope

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you know that you're here tonight

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because you supposed to be here tonight

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you didn't get here by chance right

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right somebody sitting here right now

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that you sitting there you can't even

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understand right now something is

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stirring up inside of you you're like oh

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my Lord that's why you rocking back and

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forth cuz there's something stirring in

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you right

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now right cuz you going have to do see

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too many people you can't don't don't

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lose that M of just you're not existing

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you're living there is a difference

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whole lot of people are just taking up

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space huh they're just standing up

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waiting to be laid down in the grave but

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we going stop just existing you're going

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to

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live oh man you may have to live in that

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circumstance for a little while you

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might have to live in that circumstance

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for a little while but let's there

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something I want to tell you you're

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going to live in that circumstance for a

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while but guess what just rent that

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space Oh I hope you got that right you

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might live in something for a little

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while but just rent that space uh don't

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buy itth cuz you're going to move soon h

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oh you're going to move soon just rent

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it just rent it just rent it just rent

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it because there's a very powerful quote

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by V here there's a very powerful quote

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that says this see cuz if you if you

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stay too long see the longer that you

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dwell in your Misfortune the greater is

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the power for it to harm

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you oh can I say that one more time yes

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see the longer that you dwell in your

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Misfortune huh the greater is its power

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to harm you see whenever you talk about

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dwelling that means you're done Tak

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enough

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residence the longer you dwell in your

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Misfortune as long as have I've made it

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my Homestead if I've made it my mindset

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if I've made it my Dwelling Place if I'm

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living there in my Misfortune I done got

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a negative attitude and ain't nothing

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ever going to change nothing else guess

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what you have now given a power over you

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to harm

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you some of us need to move

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hello

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amen sometimes though here's something

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to also think things in a different way

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sometimes when you're in the dark

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place understand brothers and sisters

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when you're in a dark place you got to

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understand when you're in a dark place

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you might think that you are being

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buried that you have been buried but you

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haven't been buried you have been

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planted oh oh oh oh what you mean Dr

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Robert see sometime us we in a dark

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place you haven't been buried you've

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been planted oh that's what that

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Darkness was it wasn't burial it was

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planted oh did you not know that there

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was something that's getting ready to

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sprout in you you thought that you were

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in a dark place that you were buried but

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you was actually planting there was some

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water that's been coming you thought you

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was drowning but it was feeding the seed

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that's about to burst out and you you

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were not buried you were

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planted and you about to sprout right

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now

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[Music]

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oh oh oh man I'm fir myself up if you

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ain't been

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fired

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amen oh sometimes hope sometimes hope

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sometime hope comes all kind of ways

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folk sometimes hope is a radical act

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sometimes it's just quiet sometimes it's

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just a quiet merciful response some

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sometimes it's just a second wind that

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comes through and sometime it's just an

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increase awareness Ness of goodness and

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Beauty yes but sometimes again God

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always gives me these acronyms all the

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time when we have to heal our hope that

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h e a l that heal stands to me for we

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got to help every aspect be lifted all

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right that's how that gets healed you

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help every aspect be lifted so that you

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can reach your hope you know how he

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talks about that hope h o p e when you

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reach that hope is that it helps our

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purpose explode H oh h o p e that kind

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of hope is what's going to help your

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purpose

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explode so I tell you I have to do I'm

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going to throw a scripture in there

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anyway Romans

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1513 that says it may the god of Hope

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huh fill you with all joy and peace in

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faith that when you overflow with hope

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with the power of the Holy Spirit you

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can move forward all right oh I tell you

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you God probably isn't going to rewrite

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your past but he promises he already has

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an amazing future written for you that's

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ready to be fulfilled my bottom line is

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if you believe he is the author and

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finisher of your faith then give him the

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pin

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back give him the pin back give him the

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pen back give him the pen back and he

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does not have an eraser he knows exactly

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what he's doing let him heal your hope

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and move forward of what he has planned

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for you amen thank you

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