77.27 Yellow

690. Recent riots in Paris and across France protesting a rise in gas taxes is a bellwether moment in history, if politicians will pay attention.  They will not.  Elites who fly in private planes want you to pick up the tab for controlling “climate change”.  No more.  The French are taxed at twice the total amount as are Americans.  They receive much more in benefits, but that’s not the point.  Climate change is a fraud.

691. As IBMs*, we need to assert leadership and thought lacking in snowflakes.

692. I have to build out my IBM group today.

693. I need to create images with stoic quotes and post them in old video posts in chazlamm.com   Also need to add ads in sidebar.

694. This is strange, but I will start my first 77 again on January 7th.  I will recycle these pages and get them posted.

695. Make an image:

“A free and prosperous society has no fear of anyone entering it. But a welfare state is scared to death of every poor person who tries to get in and every rich person who tries to get out.”

Harry Browne

696. One reason I need a daily checklist of life routines is that my brain is starting to fail in small ways.  I need to take important but not urgent items and reduce them to routines that I track.  This has to be a priority for my first 77 day gong.  Begins January 7th 2019.   Leave the brain free to think about things that matter.


Public Speaking

How To Use Comedy, Improv, and Standup To Kill It In Your Speeches

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1. Good stand-up comedians are masters of public speaking.  Actually the ultimate public speakers.  Watch and learn.  Watch the set-up, delivery, and the punch line.  Comedians are expected to hold your attention for an hour, and make you laugh constantly.  No breaks.  No powerpoint.  No Q&A.

2. Watch stand-up comedy. Your goal is to enter the zone.  The result of getting into this state is that you feel energized.  You experience the now and have extended access to your ideas, insights, expertise, and talents.

3. Stop using the “storyteller voice.” It’s false. You tell a story to 10,000 the same way you tell the story to your best friend.  A place many comedians start with is a humbling personal experience.  Everyone can connect with Rodney Dangerfield’s “I don’t get no respect”.

4. Timing is key.  Not too fast.  Not too slow.  Pause where you need to let the joke sink in.  Speak too slowly and you will bore audiences to tears. Not everything in a speech is of equal importance. Much of what we say is building up to the big point. That’s what needs to land.

5. Gestures can go a long way to helping even the people up in the cheap seats play along.  Communication relies on our tone, pitch, facial gestures, and body movements. Comedians know that on stage, subtle facial expressions must give way to bigger movements.

6. When you nail a joke, let it ride.  Land your punchlines and points.  You can’t force funny.

7. Audiences need to have a laugh, and a pause, before the next release. As a public speaker, you may even want to move your audience through an emotional roller coaster. The laughing and crying keeps them connected and opens them up for you to deliver your knowledge and lessons.

8. A great speech equals a prepared speech. Comedians practice their routines over and over, but not to the point of sounding boring. You can use different memory techniques to remember even long and complex speeches. Remember, it takes a lot of rehearsal to sound spontaneous.

9. Comedians keep good eye contact with the audience.  When you look away, so does the audience.  Set up the speech in a relatable way, and then deliver the unexpected.

10. Write.  Edit.  Rehearse.  Present.  Repeat.

You don’t need to be a comedian to kill on stage. Observe the techniques comedians use.   Employ them in your own presentations with or without jokes.

2. Movement is your friend.  Stay physically open so everyone in the room can see you.  Work your way to center stage to deliver your big points, but don’t rush there as soon as you are on stage.  Don’t turn your back on the audience unless it is critical to make a point.

3. When you nail a joke, let it ride.  Land your punchlines and points.

4. Your feelings don’t matter.  The audience’s does.  A big emotion for you may not move the audience.  

5. Keep details in any story limited to what is necessary to make the point.  The details are designed to serve the end.  Of course, both the content and delivery are crucial in superb public speaking.

  1. Watch stand-up comedy. Watch the set-up, the delivery and pay-off, and how they own the stage. Stand up comedians can turn a water bottle into a tool for making moments.
  2. Be careful using idioms—make sure appropriate for culture of audience.
  3. Don’t make jokes about difficult topics unless they’re directed toward self. Suicide is not funny.
  4. If you tell them you care about something you also need to tell them why.
  5. Michael used drums to demonstrate how timing works. Boom, boom, BANG. Boom, boom, boom, BANG. Rules of three.
  6. Stage blocking. How to stay physically open so everyone in the room can see you (Theater term: cheat open.)
  7. Deliver big moments center stage (usually).
  8. When coming on stage, avoid making a beeline directly to center of stage and then starting your speech. It looks stiff, clunky.
  9. Learn how to rehearse. This is a key to performance. When rehearsing, if you have to stop, start back up at the exact same emotional, physical and energetic state. Otherwise, you’ll lose the emotional through-line and arch of the speech.
  10. When you land a joke bask in it.
  11. Voice and speech training is not something you master in an hour. Michael studied daily for three years in a M.F.A program at NYU.
  12. Don’t push. (Push is theater term for over acting) You can’t show emotion. When you push the work feels false and often self-observed.
  13. Major emotion for the speaker/performer doesn’t always translate to major emotion for the audience.
  14. Endings: get everything in before audiences clap. Then get off the stage. Don’t let them see you doing housekeeping. It breaks the theatrical experience.
  15. You can also stay on stage at the end if you invite them to join you there.
  16. Anyone can make a sexy sizzle reel. Meeting planners want to know you can “hold the stage” for an extended period of time. Make sure you can show them video of 5-15 minutes of a performance.
  17. Whatever kind of talk you’re giving, no matter how good, no matter how much they love you, end a few minutes early. They always appreciate the extra time.
  18. What you feel doesn’t matter. The job is to effect the audience.
  19. Content needs to be repeated. Details in stories don’t.
  20. Get right to it. Film term: burn the first real. Most speakers waste time on too much exposition and the audience starts thinking, “Let’s go already!”
  21. Stop using the “storyteller voice.” It’s false. You tell a story to 10,000 the same way you tell the story to your best friend. You don’t use some dramatic made up voice.
  22. Often the your favorite parts of a speech don’t work and need to be cut. We get attached to bits that really don’t further the story or resonate with the audience.
  23. Michael’s secret to getting a standing ovation AND a perfect 10 on every evaluation form. Brilliant. (I can’t tell you that one! You’ll have to come to the Think Big Speak Easy to find out).
  24. Most speaking teachers tell you to slow down. Makes sense some of the time. However, focus should be placed on pausing rather than slowing down. Speakers that speak too slowly often bore audiences to tears. Michael speaks fast but pauses at the right places so there is vocal rhythm. Audiences can easily absorb/consume the important points. Not everything in a speech/performance is of equal importance. Much of what we say is simply in service of the big point. That’s what needs to land.
  25. Never turn your back to the audience unless it’s intentional to make a point or convey an emotion. When you need to move upstage (that’s toward the back of the stage, away from the audience) you do it backwards while speaking to the audience.
  26. The idea that you’re not supposed to move while you talk is ridiculous. But you don’t move on the big moments (remember Michael’s Stand and Land).
  27. Never yell to a group to come back after a partner activity. Makes you look weak. Use Michael’s hand up technique and do it silently. That’s powerful.
  28. If you think you’re going to rise to the moment, you’re wrong. Under pressure, you don’t rise to the occasion, you sink to the level of your training.” If you think you’re going to come up with the right material during the speech without hours of preparation, think again.
  29. This is all fun if you do the work.
  30. It’s amazing to see these people are transforming—using their bodies and environment and props to tell the story rather than just their words.

Here is just one page of notes from one participant from the first two hours of day one:

  1. The speech starts with your bio before you walk on stage. Bio should be over the top powerful and impressive. Then open with something sincere and self-effacing to disarm the audience.
  2. You DON’T have to tell them what you’re going to tell them. Open with a surprise, a shock…an interaction, something that makes connection, entertains, exposes, etc.
  3. You need to cut lots of info OUT of your stories and better detail with specifics critical parts of your stories. How much do they need to know to get to the a-ha moment; less than you think.
  4. An entire story is designed to serve the end.
  5. Establish right away that you know what the world looks like for them—and what it could look like. Vividly paint the picture.
  6. You must reward them for doing something or contributing in some way.
  7. Use palm up instead of finger for pointing. Sometimes the finger looks like a gun and is rude in some cultures. Palm up serves up the floor to them in a more gracious way.
  8. People say “Yes” when we’ve affected them intellectually, emotionally or physically.
  9. If you’re teaching content (which has some differences from a “message” speech) outline first then go back and unpack it.  Outline and then make the case.
  10. Use props. What can you show, demo, depict with things rather than words.
  11. Use contrast/extremes to create excitement and keep attention. Contrast can be emotional, physical, structural. This is basic in every great play, film, and music composition.
  12. Keep your energy and speech moving forward. Never let the energy drop.
  13. Audiences like to think that events on the stage are happening spontaneously. They like to be surprised. The great actor does this brilliantly. The Speaker needs to as well.
  14. Love Michael’s phrase: STAND AND LAND. Let your punchlines, point lines and purpose lines land.
  15. You can move and talk at the same time (people do it all the time in real life) but not on or over the most important points.
  16. Don’t say, “I’m glad to be here.” Audience should see that in your presentation. No need to tell them.
  17. Don’t tell them you’re going to tell a story. Just tell the story.
  18. Every rule is made to be broken but to break a performance/stage rule you have to know the rules, why they exist and why you’re breaking them (only do it for a better result).
  19. Be very conscientious about connecting the dots or you’ll lose your audience.
  20. When giving info for people to write down, give them time to write it down for goodness sake.
  21. You can blow their mind in just a few minutes (example: TED talks). Never apologize for the amount of time you don’t have. They should feel that the amount of time you have is the perfect amount of time.
  22. Audiences love to be let out a few minutes early—even if they LOVE your performance.
  23. Enlist the self-proclaimed experts in the room. It’ll help knock the chips off their shoulders and get them on your side supporting your message.
  24. Slight embellishment and/or combining stories into one better story is fine. It’s a performance, a show. Go for what is most dramatic and effective to get your message across.
  25. Remember they don’t know what you know. It’s the first time they’ve heard your info.
  26. Show them what the world will look like if they DON’T change, if the DON’T follow your advice.

Remember, this was just one page of notes from one participant in the Think Big Speak Easy.

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PUA for IBMs

Are IBMs (Introvert Boomer Males) just not suited to become PUAs (Pickup Artists)?

Of course not.  As long as you adopt best practices suited to your introvert nature, and don’t try to be something you’re not.

My friend Karl in Ft. Lauderdale is an example of a mindless extrovert who needs no PUA training.  He’s a 65 year old Jamaican who damn near speaks in code.  I understand about every third word.

Yet, anyplace in public, he will speak to women in a flirty manner.  Customers in the grocery store.  Waitresses in restaurants.  Clerks everywhere.

He must fail hundreds of times between successes, but the successes are there.

Not me.

I do like giving a kind word to cashiers and service workers, but it’s a kind word, not a creepy pickup attempt.

And yet, I know as an introvert I know I need to up my game to improve my social life and find multiple sex partners.

When I was younger, I was in jobs and positions that had women coming to me.  This is not bragging, but luck.  

I was a Peace Corps Volunteer in Korea before they exploded economically.  I taught English and worked in Korean company after that.  I was a diplomat in Seoul and Manila.  Later, I quit the Foreign Service for law school and an immigration law practice.

Sounds strange, but think about it.

When I was a PCV from 1975 to 1977, I lived on the east coast of Korea in a port city called Mukho.  It’s now called Donghae City.  There was one other PCV in the city, so if a woman wanted to try out a white guy like she might have seen in Western movies, we were it.

Teaching English later in Seoul brings you in contact with ambitious young women who needed to learn English to attend college in the U.S. or maybe for their careers.  It put you face to face daily with dynamic, aggressive women who were easy to get into bed.

Nothing works better than being a Foreign Service Officer, especially a Consular Officer.  If you have the power to grant a visa, everyone in developing countries will want to know you.  I have been walking with the Chargé d’Affaires (acting Ambassador) and had women push past him to talk to this Junior Officer with visa power.

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As a bonus, the woman gets a shot at parties and dinners at the Ambassador’s Residence.

I quit the Foreign Service for law school.  Like med students, law students are a rowdy bunch who tend to go to bars in groups and pull in a number of single ladies for drinks, and often more.

My law school was located near Ft. Lauderdale, which didn’t hurt.  Add tourists to the available pool of women.  We had palm trees in the school’s logo.  I don’t think we wore long pants until 3rd year.

Boats are pussy magnets.  Sail or power.  As we moved into practicing law, the women seek you out.

Probably the best way to ruin your sex life is to get married.  After years of moving about and taking care of a family, the offers from desirable women wane.  I practiced immigration law, so I would often find a way to visit SE Asia, especially Thailand.

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When men die and go to heaven, they pass through Bangkok.  It’s as close to heaven on Earth as men will experience.

With the best bathhouses in the world, there is no reason for any man to be horny.

Then, the gravy train ends.  I don’t know why.  I think most of it occurred when I stopped drinking 22 years ago.  No more drunk girls each night looking for action.

Now I have to earn it.

When I was a teenager, I didn’t understand women.  I didn’t understand them in my 20s or when I was married.  And at age 65, nothing has improved.

To get back in the game, I need PUA help without cheesy pickup lines or the need for the targeted party to be inebriated.

Pickup lines all come across as redneck:

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PUA is about a lot more.