Agreements for the Sexsibility at Ängsbacka August 4-9, 2023
Consent: I understand that everything said or done during the festival is confidential. I can share my own experiences, but I will not talk about what someone else has done or said. I will not reveal real names, nicknames, or explicit details about any person at the festival to someone outside the festival (see below about the photo policy).
I will respect everybody's boundaries and ensure that all my activities and interactions are respectful and only involve people who have given their consent to the interaction. If I'm unsure about someone's boundaries, or if I'm not sure if someone has understood my boundaries or if it's in some way unclear what we have consented to, I will take responsibility for taking the time to clarify this before we continue.
I have understood that it's not allowed with hateful, harmful, threatening, or bullying behavior, or to discriminate or harass anyone, regardless of, for example, gender, gender identity (to identify oneself as male, female, a blend of both, neither or something else), sexual orientation, sexual preferences, ethnicity, color, age, functionality, social affiliation, religion or other beliefs.
Self-care: I understand that I am participating in a festival that is not a substitute for therapy, and I am responsible for participating in a way that I can manage (physically, psychologically, and emotionally). I understand everything that happens at the festival is voluntary and that I am not compelled to do anything I feel uncomfortable with. I take full responsibility for my boundaries, for what I don't want to receive and what I'm not willing to give.
I understand that I can at any time change my mind, say No, stop what I'm doing or leave the room or situation. I can always (as long as it's done with consent) adjust any exercise or interaction to better suit my needs and what I really want to give or are willing to receive.
I am solely responsible for having the insurance I wish to have during the festival, and I cannot claim compensation for something I did or exposed myself to.
Safety: During the festival, I will not use any alcohol or drugs, not even drugs that are legal, like “Internet drugs” or considered being natural (like plants or mushrooms), for example, Ayahuasca, cannabis oil, Fly agaric. I understand that smoking tobacco, e-cigarettes, and vaporizers are only allowed in the designated area.
I know that it's permitted to use medicine prescribed by a doctor, but I will inform the staff (Lorenzo or someone in the EMO-team) about any diseases, STDs, allergies, psychiatric treatments, physical dysfunctions, pregnancy, recent surgeries, or medications that might have a negative impact on my participation or other peoples safety and I will adjust my participation according to my health condition.
I will not light any fires, incense, or candles on Ängsbacka grounds or in the forest. Due to, for example, fire safety, I will not leave in the middle of the festival without notifying some of the staff (the Safety team, EMO- team, or Lorenzo), and I will not invite outsiders during the festival.
Media policy: I will not take photos or make audio or video recordings during the festival. I have also understood that there are four exceptions (described below) from the media policy above.
1. A photo corner and/or photo tent that is clearly marked with a border and signs, where participants who want to be photographed can be photographed by someone they have given their consent to.
2. Arranged photo and/or video sessions (to create material for marketing) that have a defined place and time which has been informed about in advance. This usually happens only once in a closed room during a lunch break.
Nudity and Sex: I have understood that it is welcomed to be naked and have sex at the festival, but only in certain areas. Like the Playroom, the naked area, in my room/tent, and in the workshop rooms (if the workshop leaders allow that). I will look at the map at the festival to know which areas are allowed for this, and I will not be naked or have sex elsewhere. I understand that women should not be topless at the Molkom beach.
If I will have sex, I will do my best to practice safer sex. I know that I need to have clear verbal consent before mucous membranes (in Swedish: slemhinnor) are in contact with each other, and I will avoid having vaginal secretions, semen, or blood coming in direct contact with mucous membranes or wounds.
I understand that mucous membranes can be found in the vagina, on the labia minora, around the glands, the foreskin, the anal, the mouth, and the eyes. I know that condoms are always a good option, both for intercourse and oral sex and to use a dental dam (in Swedish: slicklappar) if I have anal and/or vaginal oral sex, and to use gloves when doing anus and/or genital massage. I will wash my hands and sex toys if they have been in contact with mucous membranes before touching another person or public things such as door handles.
Hygiene: During my stay at Ängsbacka I will follow the current restrictions from the Swedish authorities that apply to the situation with the coronavirus. But regardless of what these restrictions are I will carefully wash and disinfect my hands before each meal. I will also wash and disinfect my hands after (and before) an intimate meeting. If I sit or lie naked, for example, in an exercise or in the Playroom, I will use a sheet and a large towel to minimize the risk of spreading diseases. I will also be mindful about dishes and bring my plate, cup, and cutlery, to the dishing temple, and rinse them off as the staff requests.
Respect each other: I will respect other people's need for sleep, and I will not, for example, speak loudly or be loud if I have sex, if that may disturb others who are sleeping nearby.
In order to share and save warm water, I will only take short showers, and I will not use electricity unnecessarily.
I will not take anything from the workshop rooms. If I need a blanket, I know I can rent it from Ängsbacka.
If I come by car, I will only park the car in designated areas.
I will not use a mobile, a computer or other electronics in the festival area unless it is important. If I need to have my mobile on, I will put it in silent mode and go aside when I need to talk, so I don't disturb others. (there is a mobile phone hanging on the information board, which can be used, for example, in emergencies, if I need to contact someone in the EMO team, have practical questions, or if I want help in any other way.)
I understand that the festival takes place in a defined area on Ängsbacka's property, and I will ensure that the surrounding in Molkom and its inhabitants are respected by not extending the festival activities to the nearby recreational area in the forest, to the beach at the lake, or to any other public locations off-site. I understand that it's important for the Sexsibility team and Ängsbacka not to become separated from the society we are a part of. Some people are very afraid of nudity, sexuality, body shaking, alternative lifestyles, etc., and I will try to do my best to respect these people and not scare them away. If I can and are willing to, I will instead try to inspire, include, and respond to them with kindness, without me violating my boundaries or values. This will reduce the risk that we at the festival will be a target for negative projections from others and that we instead contribute to creating a better world for all of us.
Stay tuned: I will also do my best to attend the welcome ceremony, the morning meetings and keep an eye on the information board to get important information. I also agree to receive mail from Ängsbacka and Starspray (Lorenzo) with information about the festival and other upcoming events, and I know that I can unsubscribe to this at any time by clicking on the link at the end of these emails.
Thank you for agreeing to everything above. Everyone else at the festival (all the participants, workshop leaders, volunteers, and staff) will also agree to this. In that way, we all take responsibility to create a festival that is as safe as possible and has a loving atmosphere. Let's enjoy amazing days together.
Lorenzo Stiernquist, the Sexsibility team and Ängsbacka