Navigating Ethical Non-Monogamy ~ Group Theme Schedule
Winter 2018 // Yana Tallon-Hicks // yanatallonhicks.com
This is a general outline of themes for each group meeting. Themes or content may be adjusted depending on group needs and pacing. Each group will contain time for an opening check-in, a psychoeducational component led by Yana, group sharing and/or a skill-building activity, a homework assignment for the week, and a closing.
Please purchase the following books to be read over the course of the 10-week group.
More Than Two by Franklin Veaux & Eve Rickert
Opening Up by Tristan Taormino
Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin
Optional: The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy
Other readings/articles will be assigned and email as needed.
Less expensive book options can sometimes be found on ThriftBooks.com
Group 1: February 4th
Introduction to the Group
Intro to Non-Monogamy / 101 / Terms
Self-Assessment: What might be your unique personal challenges in non-monogamous partnerships?
Group 2: February 11th
Goal-Setting & Visioning Your Relationships
Defining Your Relationship Values
What kind of relationships do you want to create and why? What are the barriers currently standing between you and these hopes and how can you begin to address them?
Group 3: February 18th
Attachment Styles & Ineffective Coping Strategies
Identifying Your Attachment Styles & Injuries
Identify and adjust the ineffective behaviors you utilize to attempt to meet your relational needs
Group 4: February 25th
Identifying Your Boundaries & Needs Within Relationships
Increasing Differentiation & Sense of Self While in Conflict
How do you act and react to your partners when you are in relational conflict or distress? How does this impact your relationship satisfaction and what can you do about it?
Group 5: March 4th
Dismantling Barriers to Open Communication
Practicing direct communication and positive, specific requests
What are the differences between direct communication, asking for your needs, and demanding or controlling? How can we ensure we are doing one and not the other?
NO GROUP March 11th
Group 6: March 18th
Jealousy & Jealousy Management
Jealousy is the number one common challenge for most people navigating non-monogamy. Where are the roots of your jealousy, your partners’ jealousy, and how can you effectively address jealousy without controlling your partners or sabotaging yourself?
Group 7: March 25th
Self-Care & Self-Worth as Jealousy Management
How do your negative thought patterns attribute to your resiliency in the face of relational uncertainty? What self-care strategies bolster your sense of self in partnership and how can this positively impact your non-monogamous relationships?
Group 8: April 1st
Building Relationship Agreements That Work
Learn strategies for creating relationship agreements that are sustainable and beneficial to all people in your relationship.
What makes for a successful agreement? How can you create custom relationship boundaries in a social context with few positive examples of sustainable non-monogamy?
Group 9: April 8th
Power, Safety, and Relationship Repair
How do issues of power and privilege play into non-monogamous relationships and what can you do to create ethical relationships in the face of power differentials?
How do you create safety in your relationships, both physically and emotionally?
What do you do when things go wrong, mistakes are made, or relationships hit the rocks?
FINAL GROUP 10: April 15th
Group Wrap-Up & Closing
What have you learned here?
What might be your next steps for personal growth and healthy relationship building?
This group will be left flexible to address the needs of the group or anything that the group determines hasn’t gotten enough time during the previous 9 weeks.