My faith used to be comforting, but now it’s just really difficult or painful.

I don’t have the experiences that I see other people have.

There are gospel principles that I used to believe, that I can no longer believe.

I don’t know what it’s like to receive revelation.

I don’t really know how to fast.

I don’t really know how to pray.

I have no personal experience with Jesus Christ and His atonement.

I have never felt God’s grace.

I have expectations that need to be met before I can accept the people around me.

I have been hurt by life, and have never healed.

I am uncomfortable with the unexpected.

I used to see everything in black and white, and now I see a lot of grey.

When I see good things in other people’s religions, I feel uncomfortable in my religion.

Much of what I do at church is just work to earn and keep other people’s approval.

I’m not interested in working and struggling even more for new perspectives that might enable me to develop faith; I’d rather my feelings be validated by now.

I have always enjoyed church, but I can’t say I’ve ever experienced what people call inner transformation or conversion.

I don’t like reading books or researching issues in depth.

I search for how to think and what to believe from other people.

I focus regularly on how other people at church perceive me.

I haven’t experienced what it feels like to make successful & important choices on my own.

I am afraid to disappoint certain people in my life

The world seems so much more complicated than it should be, and I miss the simple worldview and simple faith I used to have

When I experience disappointment, I don’t rebound and recover easily.

When I adjust my thinking, I often conclude that my previous thinking was bad or stupid.  I often dislike the person I used to be.

I tend to assume the worst about people and events if they make me uncomfortable.

It’s difficult to stop thinking about certain things.

If I have a problem, the answer is usually to do more of something until the problem is solved.

It’s hard to feel anything but despair.

I can’t feel either happiness or sadness of any kind.

I alternate between feeling intensely excited/happy, and sad/unmotivated.

Other people’s actions highly influence how I think and feel.

A very important question is how well or how poorly things reflect on me.

My feelings dominate my life.

I want to protect myself from ever being hurt again.

When I hurt, I often feel there is a person or institution at fault.

The idea of interacting with other people is really stressful for me.

Apologizing is something that I dread, and I go to great lengths to avoid it.

I avoid exposure to information or realities that might upset me.

I don’t believe I am good, or capable, or deserving.

Most other people are more accomplished, more blessed, more lucky, or more intelligent than I am.

When people hurt me, I tend to obsess over it.

I ruminate regularly over past hurts and grievances.

I have felt betrayed and let down frequently.

I will never measure up to the acceptable standard of goodness or obedience.

I fear being alone.

Rescuing other people makes me feel very good.

I need to feel needed.

I am often fearful or feel anxiety.

Other people’s actions often appear hostile to me.

I cannot describe my own temperament, tendencies, or worldview; and/or I am unable to see the connections between those things and my own life experiences.

Someone disappointed me.

People often disappoint me.

I don’t know how to respectfully communicate my thoughts and feelings.

Other people need to hear me.

It’s hard to be happy when I don’t feel accepted by others.

Other people should accept me exactly as I am.

I regularly feel judged by others.

Other people rarely meet my expectations, and often let me down.

People who avoid me are probably bad or flawed.

When people try to help me in ways I don’t approve of, it shows there is something wrong with them.

I don’t trust people until they have earned it.

When people tell me no, I feel hurt or judged.

I don’t rely upon anyone, and I don’t think people should rely too much on each other.

When people don’t talk with me, it probably means they must not like me.

Nobody has the right to tell me what I should think or do.

I hate it when people are in a position of authority over other people.

I crave the influence and approval of authority figures, to help me know what is best to understand and do.

I feel threatened by other people’s personalities and worldviews that are too different from my own.

It makes me uncomfortable when groups of people appear to have the same race, beliefs, socioeconomic classes, and so forth.

I am most comfortable around people who are similar to myself.

I have a hard time relating to other people.

I often rescue church activities; I wish other people around me would do more in their callings.

I have trouble delegating to people who might not perform to my standards.

I don’t feel comfortable saying I “know” the church is true.

I don’t understand why we claim so strongly to be the church of Jesus Christ when other churches believe that very strongly about themselves.

I trusted that my parents and seminary teachers were teaching me the truth about God, but now I’ve learned that some things they believed were not true.

I don’t think I can believe something unless it makes logical sense to me.

All spiritual experiences in every faith tradition are equally valid.

All belief systems are equally valid.

I don’t understand why different scholars arrive at different conclusions when they are looking at the same evidence.

It doesn’t make sense to say that “the scriptures are true” when we know they contain ideas and narratives that are not true.

I don’t know how to reconcile things that seem to be in contradiction.

I can only believe something if I have accounted for every possible opposing view.

I have trouble with ambiguity.

There are a lot of gospel principles that seem to be in conflict.

My feelings are the most important factor in how I determine what is true.

I don’t care about feelings; I want sources of information that are objective.

I have heard a lot of things that lead me to believe the church is not true.

I expect prophets to predict the future.

I don’t know who to believe.

When I had questions, I read some apologetics and they failed to answer critics to my satisfaction.

My “shelf” is broken.

Why would I believe in miracles, if smart people are able to come up with logical alternative explanations?

I don’t know God on a personal level; God is an abstract idea to me.

I don’t know what to expect from God.

I don’t know if God is kind, or if He is mean.

I don’t understand why we need to have faith, instead of God just making Himself known all at once to everyone.

I don’t think it’s fair that we consider ourselves the “one true church.”

I don’t understand how gender is eternal.

I expect if God is involved in something, it should go well and have a happy ending.

Since God loves everyone equally, I have a hard time imagining that God approves of inequality among people.

It doesn’t make sense why God would cause or allow so much suffering and evil in the world.

It doesn’t seem fair that God would reveal the gospel to small groups of people throughout history, when so many other people need it.

If God is forgiving, then I don’t see why Christ would need to suffer.

Prophets should not make mistakes on important things.

I don’t see how scripture can be considered revelation if it contains plagiarism or anachronisms.

Prophets should be well-behaved.

The gospel seems full of gender inequality.

I don’t know how to personally seek revelation.

It’s hard for me to understand why a loving god would break up families in the afterlife.

I can’t imagine why God would prohibit two people from loving each other just because they are the same sex.

It doesn’t make sense to me that God would require everyone to have ordinances.

I don’t see why temples are necessary.

I have tested promises from prophets, and haven’t received the blessings.

I don’t see why it’s important to fast.

It doesn’t seem okay that God would require people to do things that cause hurt feelings for themselves and others.

The influence of God should be comforting and positive.

Maybe God uses natural processes to achieve His purposes, like evolution.

I know a lot of sinners who are better people than religious people I know, so I don’t see why God would insist that I go to church.

I don’t understand why I should obey commandments that come through church leaders, when their views have evolved over time.

I don’t have time to read books or research issues in depth.

It upsets me when people I trust turn out to be wrong about things.

My ward is very conservative in their thinking, and I can’t relate.

My family reacted with fear and anger when I started to question the gospel.

There is no one in my ward who is able to talk through my questions with me.

I have health problems and.or medications that seem to be preventing me from sensing the Spirit in my life.

I experienced bad things in a church context, and I have trouble putting aside those associations in the present.

I lean conservative in my thinking, and I’m frustrated that church leadership are accommodating liberal interest groups in the church.

I lean liberal in my thinking, and I’m frustrated that church leadership are accommodating conservative interest groups in the church.

I’m the only active and believing member in my family, and it’s a struggle to peacefully coexist with other family members.

I’m the only inactive and nonbelieving person in my family, and it’s a struggle to peacefully coexist with other family members.

I have a low tolerance for conflict.

I need simplicity.

I have always believed that my church experience should be joyful, and lately it seems that church often leaves me feeling less joyful, not more.

I have never been super spiritual, like other people at church.

I have a low tolerance for ambiguity.

I have never felt like a “sinful” person in need of “redemption.”

I am a recent convert, and trying to process a lot of challenging aspects of church and the gospel.