How are you feeling?

Every emotion has a message for you, it’s a signal. If you can understand the signal, you will be able to make them serve you by taking appropriate action.

The emotions you feel are your body’s way of signaling that something is right or wrong in your life. If you feel happy, things internally are good. If you feel sad, something may be off balance, and something may need to be examined or changed.

Understanding your core emotions will help you develop an empowered relationship with your feelings.

Once you master your core feelings, recognize that these are just symptoms of a deeper problem, especially if they’re not serving you. Your next step is to learn how to manage your emotions and use them to your benefit.

 Your Core Emotions & what they mean

Uncomfortable (boredom, impatience, distressed, mildly embarrassed)

The Message:

• You need to immediately change your state

The Solution:

• Clarify what you want out of life or a certain situation, and take immediate action towards that direction.

Fear (concern, apprehension, worry, anxiety, scared, terrified)

Message:

• You are not prepared, confident, or ready for something that awaits.

Solution:

• You need to prepare (something is coming in the near future that you need to be prepared for).

Hurt (loss, pain)

Message:

• You have an expectation that is not being met.

Solution:

• Change your perspective on the situation.

• Try looking at the problem through someone else’s eyes.

• Change the way you are communicating your desires or needs to others.

• Change the way you are behaving or treating others.

• Give up the fact that you are right about this situation.

Anger (irritated, livid, resentful, furious, enraged, jealousy)

Message:

• An important rule that you believe in has been violated by you or someone else

Solution:

• Ensure that you have clearly communicated your values, rules, or standards in the first place.

• Clarify with people what your rules are.

• Consider other people's standards, not everyone has the same ones.

• Understand that not everyone is going to play by your rules.

• Change your rules so that they are not so rigid as to leave you in disappointment over time when they are not met.

Frustration (held back, hindered)

Message:

• You keep trying to get a different result by doing the same thing over and over again.

Solution:

• Change your Approach.

“Insanity is trying the same things over and over while expecting different results

Disappointment (sad, defeated)

Message:

• You set strong goals that are not realistic for where you are at right now.

Solution:

• Change your goals to something more reasonable at this exact moment.

Guilt (regret, remorse)

Message:

• You have violated one of your own standards.

Solution:

• You must do something immediately to ensure this doesn’t happen again.

• Change your present and future behavior.

Inadequacy (less than, unworthy)

Message:

• You need to do something to improve a situation, right away.

• You have too many rules and too much is expected of you. You need to relax.

Solution:

• Learn more about a subject.

• Practice the subject.

• Don’t compare yourself to others; take control of your own life.

• Tone down some of your rules (they may be too harsh).

Overloaded (depression, hopeless, overwhelmed)

Message:

• You need to re-evaluate what is most important to you.

Solution:

• What is absolutely most important to you? Clarify and make a list of these items.

• Handle the list, one simple issue at a time.

• Take control of events, master each one.

• You’re expecting you’re whole world to be perfect overnight… chunk it down, and tackle it bit by bit.

Lonely (separate from, alone)

Message:

• You need a connection (not necessarily specific to sexual or physical).

Solution:

• Identify the type of connection you need: intimacy? friendship? family?

• Take action and move in this direction right away.

• If every emotion has a message for you, you need to do something about it.

Next steps...

Action Plan: Now that you know the emotion you are feeling. Take the appropriate steps to master your emotions.

1. Identify the Emotion (signal)
2. Appreciate the message, respect it, don’t make it wrong and avoid it.
3. Get Curious – How can you use this signal/message to improve?
4. Get Confident (recall a time you had one of these emotions and got over it).
5. Get Certain
6. Get excited and take action; this will empower your life.

Helpful Hints: If you ignore these signals, they won’t go away; they will just intensify, until you are forced to change.

• Don’t get caught up or defeated by your emotions; hear the message and act upon it instead.

• Be proactive, not reactive.