DivaSnap.com:  As mentioned your book is based on your experience as a worker for Neffe. Can you give me 5 words that can sum up your experience?

Shawdae: Depressing, frustrating, disbelief, uncomfortable, lies.

DivaSnap.com: What was your relationship with Neffe {who character Natalie in the book} before you became her assistant?

Shawdae {Character Chardonnay}: I didn't personally know her so we was just cool everything was just business and then as time went on she start to open up to me we would talk about any and everything we laughed we played and became the best of friends more like sisters she made it clear to folks that I was her God sister, and best friend.

DivaSnap.com: How did you come up with the title of the book and does it relate to the story that is being told?

Shawdae: My title came from my heart I actually took a walk to family dollar to buy a few spiral note books, pens paper, envelope all that good stuff to write my husband but when I got back home I sat down at my kitchen table and broke down crying from anger frustration and disappointment I was just speaking out loud saying I can't take these secrets to my grave if so they'll be six feet deep with me, and as I got madder I balled the paper up gave myself sometime to breath reopened it then look back over my paper and my eye brows went up.  I said this could be a title to a book Secrets 6 Feet Deep, because I never had any interest on writing a book what's so ever honestly.

DivaSnap.com:  How much of the book is realistic? It seems as if you took “The Best Man” route and disguised your real life experiences with some fictional characters.

Shawdae: 85% of the book is true, based off actual events.

DivaSnap.com: Were you ever compensated for your services? Or are you fighting to be compensated?

Shawdae: WOW the top question everyone ask well unfortunately NO! Nobody has paid me anything nothing not even an apology card Neffe or her husband Soullow has NOT PAID ME... far as taking legal actions I mean I could but I'm not gonna hassle people that's literally broke plus every dog has it's day karma is a bitch and she has them still falling in shit! And I say that sarcastically!

DivaSnap.com: So were you working with Neffe when she and Keyshia had their falling out? What was that like?

Shawdae: I was around them when they had their family beef.  Neffe tried to reach out to Keyshia a few times.  Neffe spoke to her one time but then the call drop and I tried calling KC back for Neffe but I got no answer.   For me to be around that at that time I just felt like it was something a little deeper than a sister beef.  But I personally spoke to someone that is close to KC that confirm what I thought of her and Neffe beef is deep more then what yall know and see. I and Neffe would talk about them working out there friendship. But Soullow pressured Neffe into calling KC, I heard him say call your sister, Neffe stop being stubborn. Then Soullow would always say comment like… her and Manny Haley stole from us so why not call and borrow money from her so we can get out this hotel.  But I’m not sure how things are with them now.

DivaSnap.com:  Did you at any time worked with Keyshia or any other family members what was that like? Were there some uncomfortable moments? Give us an experience that you just can’t seem to forget that not in the book?

Shawdae:  I can't say I have worked with Keyshia Cole because I haven't I’m sure if I did she would have paid me but yes I have worked with other family members (kid's) I was always around Neffe children I was taking care of them like they was mine they are very talented kids all 5 of them. I've also worked with Neffe husband Soullow working for him was alright at first then things had a little twist.

There was plenty of unease moment’s being around Soullow because he always had sexual comments towards me and others but it annoyed the shit out of me he would say shit like damn Char so when you gone let me fuck you.

The experience that I can't forget is when we was supposed to fly out to LA Soullow would always say to me when we get to LA I'm gone come in your hotel room and fuck you my response was no the fuck you not don't nobody wanna sleep with you I'm not Anna so you can chill with all that extra shit the fuck nigga I'm married and you not my man he took my response as a joke but I was dead ass serious and he tried me more than once. We was also at the studio one night Neffe was there but she was getting her nails done and I had to run across to the gas station to get something for me before I left out the studio I was a little upset about something so Soullow call himself trying to comfort me by talking to me then as I was leaving out he slaps me on my ass but he made sure nobody was around I look at him and said stop putting your damn hands on me playful or not no

DivaSnap.com: Speaking of other family members. What is Frankie like in real life? Is she as turned up as she appears on TV?

Shawdae: Lord Frankie, Frank the bank what they call her Frankie is live in real life she full of energy she has more energy than some of these 50 year old guys she actually spent the night at my place a few times along with some of her kids she had us up all night laughing in tears that lady plays no games and stay turned up to the max none stop I wonder do she ever sleep.

DivaSnap.com:  A wise writer knows never to give their readers all their material in one book, do you see yourself writing a follow-up to this book? Are there more secrets to expose?

Shawdae: Well I'm not gonna say much but from the looks of things I may have a little rabbit to pull out of my hat stay tuned...

DivaSnap.com: Do you see writing as a new career?

Shawdae: Yes I surly do writing is a good way to explore and vent from any heartfelt pain but for the most of it it's amazing to see how creative your mind can be so yes I do see writing as a career for me along with my other career opportunities I have in mind.

DivaSnap.com: Was there anything challenging about writing this book? Was it hard for you to relive this experience while writing this book?

Shawdae: Yes very challenging I was debating on if I should write the book or not because I didn't wanna seem fake by telling what went on but I felt like they didn't give a damn about my feelings or wellbeing so why should I plus I wanted to show each character a reflection of themselves as to what they done wrong as my wrong doing and look at what was right.  Yes it was very hard I cried writing it and I cried after I finished it readers will understand why once they read it I’m sure all moms can relate to a few chapter's!

DivaSnap.com. Did you burn any bridges with Neffe because of the secret you expose in the book? Or how is your relationship with Neffe now that the secrets are out, Is she supportive, like how are she feeling about you writing this book?

Shawdae: Good question, truthful I couldn't say because I have not done any wrong to anyone and if I would've told her all the things that her husband has said and done it wouldn't have made any difference like Soullow once told me he in control and Neffe will believe anything he tell her so I feel like I haven't burnt any bridges.

As far as me and Neffe friendship I don't know where we stand I just rather keep my distance until she be women enough to reach out to me and explain why nothing happen the way she said and tell me where is my money I’m not sugar coating shit

How do she feel about me writing my book well I recently got a call from a close friend of hers and they told me she applauded me for writing it and she said she gonna read it to see what I went through from my point of view, not just to see what I have to say about Soullow and she told them she was gonna promote my book but I’m sure she won't once her husband give order beside the secret caller told me he pissed off about my book and he said my book won't sell because it's shit.

DivaSnap.com: Do you have any advice for other young people out there that want to be an assistant to pseudo-celebrities?

Shawdae: For those of ya'll that wanna get into his business just be careful keep an opened mind don't trust no one I know that's said daily but believe it when you hear it. And before you decide to be anyone's assistant make sure you let whoever it is your about to work for that you need some type of agreement stating how much you will be getting paid when this is only business