Making Sense of Counterwill

The instinct to resist being controlled or coerced is one of the most perplexing and troublesome dynamics in dealing with children and youth. This course reveals the dynamics controlling this instinct and provides suggestions for how to deal with it. This material is applicable for all those dealing with toddlers through adolescents: teachers, parents and helping professionals.

Course Outline

The distance education course as well as the facilitated videocourse are formatted into 4 one-hour sessions. The outline of onsite courses may vary depending upon time and schedule.

SESSION 1 WHY KIDS RESIST AND HOW TO DEAL WITH IT

Counterwill distilled to the essence

How `will` provokes `counterwill`

The many faces of counterwill

Emotional and intellectual counterwill

SESSION 2 COUNTERWILL AND ATTACHMENT

How counterwill serves attachment

Counterwill in the alpha child

Counterwill and competing attachments

Counterwill and defensive detachment

How to defuse counterwill through attachment

SESSION 3 COUNTERWILL AND INDIVIDUATION

How counterwill serves the individuation process

How counterwill is misread as willful

Characteristics of individuation-based counterwill

The counterwill of stuck children

Adolescence and counterwill

How to make room for a child`s will

SESSION 4 HANDLING COUNTERWILL

Why counterwill needs to be `bridged`

How to keep counterwill from sabotaging the relationship

How to maintaining the alpha position

How to reduce pressure and coercion